I’ve been dating someone I met here for several years. We really click and have a great relationship, but sometimes I can’t help wondering whether he’s still a member and making offers to other women.

This is Saito, your columnist♪ Yes, it’s safest to assume that he’s making offers to other women as well and is regularly intimate with them. I think the same applies to genuine marriages: seeing the whole truth isn’t always the right thing to do. What matters is whether he treats you well and whether you can accept the relationship as a transactional one, as long as you feel valued by your partner.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here. We can’t disclose the club, so basically, there’s no way to find out. That said, if you hire a professional agency to conduct an investigation—such as a cheating investigation—you may be able to find out through the man’s activity report. But even if you do find out, there’s really nothing to gain. Even if he’s making offers to other women, he’ll continue seeing the woman he finds most attractive. You’ll benefit more by focusing on improving yourself.