In response to my previous question, I was told that if there are any negative factors regarding someone I’m about to make an offer to, the club will tell me if I inquire.
Personally, I once had a problem with a member, and when I reported it to the club, I was told, “The club was already aware of it, so we would have told you if you had asked.”
I find that rather absurd.
I told the staff member in charge during my interview about the type of person I would not want to meet. If they still won’t tell me unless I specifically ask, then I don’t see the point of having a dedicated representative.
I have no idea what to ask or how to ask about negative factors I wouldn’t anticipate, and in the first place, there’s no way for me to know what to check in advance.
The club has repeatedly said that, rather than focusing on short-term profits, it wants to provide the best possible encounters. Isn’t this contradictory?
Why not list all negative factors in the profile? Because it might reduce the chances of getting an offer? No, wouldn’t it be better for someone who still wants to meet that person despite the negative factors to make the offer?
I’m Saito, the column writer ♪
No matter what kind of club it is, I don’t think it’s possible to explain everything 100%.
Every dating club is a complete mess in its own way.
It’s easier if you just assume that from the start.
If a woman likes a male member, she’ll be friendly, but if she meets a man she doesn’t like, she has no choice but to stand her ground. Anyone can put on an act for the length of an interview.
There are always good ones hidden among the bad ones.
That’s just how it is.
I’ve come across so many duds that I’ve lost count, but I don’t let it bother me at all.
P.S.
There’s a certain woman on a secret blacklist whose profile contained some unflattering information.
I met her at an event, and I heard that after that, she stopped receiving offers altogether.
It made me realize just how much a profile description can affect a woman.
To me, she’s incredibly straightforward, stunningly beautiful, and the easiest woman to meet.
So I can’t help thinking what a shame it is.
It really comes down to compatibility, doesn’t it?
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Maezawa from the President’s Office will answer as well.
> Why don’t you list all the negative factors in the profile?
What specific negative factors would you like to see listed?
I’m also not sure what you mean by saying, “The club was aware of them, so they would respond if asked.” Without knowing the specific details, it’s difficult to comment.
We may not have handled things exactly as you suggest, but regarding this particular question, I don’t think we can explain why something wasn’t listed without knowing what that something was.
Basically, we list the information learned during the interview and add a note if there has been a date cancellation.
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I’m Rula, a male member of UC and a member of the new salon.
So that’s what happened. I can only imagine how you must feel.
I’m a Black member too, and I do have some doubts about what a “member representative” is actually supposed to do. When the woman currently making an offer has a trait I specifically said I disliked during my interview, you’d want the staff to tell you whether she fits that description—assuming they know, of course.
That said, I think this is difficult at Universe for the following reasons:
1. The club has grown quite large, with many male and female members. As a result, the staff member assigned to a particular man often wasn’t the person who interviewed the woman he’s considering making an offer to, so information sharing can become rather administrative.
2. Even though they’re called your representative, they don’t closely follow every detail of your experience. Their role is more to answer questions when you consult them, meet with you if you request it, and respond to questions before you make an offer. The relationship is somewhat too limited to really call them a concierge.
Possible solutions would be:
- Based on the settings you’ve disliked in the past, ask the staff questions and confirm the details before making an offer, then wait for their response before proceeding.
*I often ask the staff questions before making an offer as well, and I get the impression that they provide accurate information quickly.*
- Register with a smaller dating club rather than Universe Club. In smaller clubs, the same staff member often interviews both the men and women, making it easier to obtain information. However, be careful when choosing one, because some clubs are simply small and offer no concierge support whatsoever.
- Register with THE SALON.
THE SALON provides fully personalized matchmaking, so they arrange meetings very carefully. You may not be matched depending on the chemistry, and things may not continue afterward, but you won’t have the stress of thinking, “I specifically said I didn’t want this kind of woman in the first place!” at the initial stage.
I hope this helps.
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I’m Seattle, a male member.
You’re absolutely right. I’d rather avoid people like that and make an offer to someone genuine instead.
When I want to make an offer, there are plenty of people I could choose, so I don’t want to waste my time on someone unreliable.
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