Tips
Sep 2, 2019 23:54
Looking through past questions and answers, I found a staff response saying, “Women almost never turn down an offer.” I take that to mean that, aside from scheduling conflicts, there have almost never been cases where a match failed to be arranged.
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In another topic, a male member said that a female member had told him, “Offers are presented in a way that makes them very difficult to turn down.”
This is the only example I found, so I don’t know how many female members actually feel this way. However, I find it hard to believe that she is the only one.
Male members have also recently started posting profiles, although they still make up just under 20% of the membership. I wasn’t told what the profiles contain, of course, but according to what I heard from a female member, they apparently also include staff comments.
My question is: If a female member wants to turn down a male member after reviewing his profile, staff comments, and so on, how do the staff respond? More fundamentally, do they properly consider this possibility when arranging matches?
It’s only natural that the club would prefer members not to turn down an offer, since the club makes money when a match is successfully arranged. I wondered whether the story from the female member above might have been the result of staff—consciously or unconsciously—handling the situation in a way that was close to pressuring her into accepting, in order to generate revenue.
I understand the club’s position, but when male members are turned down for reasons they don’t know, they can simply look for another woman. (Unfortunately, there is always the risk that a persistent male member will demand to know the reason, creating more work for the staff.)
When a woman wants to turn down an offer, I would like her to be able to do so. That is one of the reasons profiles are made available in the first place.
