What does it mean to have good physical chemistry?

It’s whenever the woman feels ready. For some women, it took as long as ten years—the length of their relationship—to feel that way. In those cases, though, I think the man and woman were actually very poorly matched; it only took ten years to get there because they were lovers and had the time to gradually explore each other. There are also cases like yours, where that feeling develops from the very beginning as time goes by. With lovers, even if the physical compatibility is poor, romantic feelings take precedence, so I think papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) makes it easier to calmly assess pure compatibility. Also, in papa-katsu, the allowance-based connection lacks the factors that cause romantic feelings to cool over time. That makes it a major advantage: the relationship can continue without changing, even as the months and years pass. Before joining the club, I thought nothing could compare with sex with a romantic partner. Since joining, I’ve realized that I was mistaken. At a club, you can assess someone calmly and choose a partner you’re compatible with from the start, then continue exploring that compatibility more deeply over time. Because the relationship is even more focused and specialized in that area than a romantic or married relationship, it can be taken to an even higher level—and it’s a fascinating world. Through that connection and bond, the relationship can deepen, with both people supporting each other and becoming more involved in each other’s futures. It can continue without becoming boring or growing cold… What an amazing world that would be. I just realized something… > I’m looking for someone who will nourish my heart, so it never withers. That’s exactly what a papa (a male supporter) is supposed to do, isn’t it? In a romantic relationship, there’s always the risk that someone will stop putting effort into the relationship once they feel they’ve “caught” the other person. With papa-katsu, the allowance helps prevent that. Of course, someone who gets bored easily may still lose interest or feel emotionally dried up… Even if someone isn’t naturally prone to boredom, it can be difficult to keep conveying those feelings to a woman in a romantic relationship. With an allowance, however, the message continues to come through clearly. And even in papa-katsu, you want emotional nourishment that goes beyond money, don’t you? **Additional note** You can feel physical compatibility. I think there are two kinds: compatibility at the beginning, and the deeper, fundamental kind—the kind you may encounter with only a few people in your entire life. For me, compatibility is easier to understand through papa-katsu. With a romantic partner, you can feel fulfilled regardless of compatibility, so you’ll be satisfied whether the physical match is good or bad. More precisely, love prevents you from noticing the lack of compatibility—or more than makes up for it. In papa-katsu, both people can assess their compatibility calmly. Even if the initial physical chemistry is good, that alone isn’t enough to make the relationship continue, since there isn’t necessarily any love involved. The emotional nourishment that Yozakura mentioned is necessary for men as well. There are relationships in papa-katsu where both people can provide that to each other. Also, it seems that some men place great importance on exploring and developing one particular woman, while others are surprisingly reserved. Some people want to delve deeply into a relationship with one person, while others find that boring. I think it varies from person to person. **Another additional note** > I think you can tell from the first meeting whether you’re compatible. Reading that made me feel even more reassured. With romance, emotions run high, so you can’t focus on compatibility. But with women from a club, because you can view things objectively, you can tell whether she seems compatible with you. I never take a woman’s words entirely at face value, though. I can also tell whether she likes or dislikes sex, since that’s an important thing to understand. On top of that, I can determine whether I feel compatible with her as well. My way of thinking is that sex exists for the woman, and the man’s role is to fulfill her. That’s why I’ve always found myself wondering why an allowance is necessary for an adult relationship (intimate). Actually, I’m truly envious of women who are capable of feeling things so intensely. **Yet another additional note** > You get to eat delicious food, feel good, and even receive an allowance. What an incredible system! I’m glad you agree. Once things progress to an adult relationship (intimate), many papas want that every time they meet. As a result, women who are tired of that value someone like me, and for men and women who want to feel emotionally nourished, we become precious partners who can understand each other. The depth of these relationships can exceed all expectations. Even if the allowance stays exactly the same whether you spend two hours or ten hours together, if the woman feels there are only benefits to staying together longer, she’ll naturally want to spend as much time together as possible. With an extremely sadistic woman, that can mean being unable to escape for hours. For someone like me, who doesn’t consider an adult relationship to be true dating when it’s decided before we even meet, there’s a sense of comfort and emotional nourishment in enjoying the anticipation of not knowing whether things will progress that way each time, along with enjoying the date itself. I’m drawn not only to physical compatibility, but also to emotionally fulfilling dates and relationships that serve as the foreplay before the foreplay. As those dates accumulate, the feeling that both people are already aroused and deeply affected before anything happens goes beyond mere physical compatibility. Because of the allowance, women can allow themselves to feel that way too. That’s why papa-katsu is completely different from love: unlike romantic relationships, it doesn’t inevitably become boring or routine. Instead, the emotional nourishment created by the relationship can continue to deepen, and the bond can keep growing. I believe that’s also because the allowance-based connection allows both people to satisfy each other emotionally and continue conveying that to one another. Even if romantic partners or married couples continue to love each other, they can’t maintain the same freshness and feelings they had at the beginning. Generally speaking, it’s natural for things to cool down and become routine. In contrast… In papa-katsu, the longer the relationship lasts, the continued presence of the unchanged allowance prevents it from growing cold or boring. The relationship deepens, and both people’s gratitude and appreciation for each other grow stronger. It’s truly an astonishing world.

I think you’re compatible when you find yourself wanting to meet again. It’s like a meal you’d want to eat again, regardless of whether it’s healthy. Even with the same menu, people’s preferences differ from restaurant to restaurant. And even if someone else does the exact same thing, it won’t feel the same. I have my own preferences, but those are separate from whether I’m compatible with someone. That’s why I don’t think it’s very meaningful to overthink what exactly determines compatibility.

I do think chemistry matters—I’m a man, and even I can tell. It’s hard to explain, but aren’t men and women naturally drawn to each other on an unconscious level? You can usually tell after spending a little time together, which is why I prioritize how we click. If I had to put it into words, it’s the feeling that even after seeing each other repeatedly, neither of you gets bored—you just want more. You don’t really notice each other’s scent either; it simply feels like you fit together. I also feel that it involves your mental connection, not just your bodies, and that the two can’t really be separated. So, I’d say the first person the questioner mentioned is probably that kind of match, and the other person may be fairly close to it as well.

With papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), it’s hard to know whether you’re truly compatible. Since I’m giving her an allowance, she’ll say things like, “That feels so good,” or “We’re incredibly compatible physically ♡” as part of her sales talk, so there’s no way for the papa (a male supporter) to know for sure. I want to believe we are compatible ( ；∀；) I really hope that when she says I’m good, she means it literally ( ；∀；) If I had to say, I sometimes feel we’re compatible when a woman reacts really strongly—but that could be acting too, so it’s hard to say. Update: Yozakura In my case, I prioritize looks, so compatibility comes down to this formula: Looks + nipple reactions + cunnilingus reactions + penetration reactions + number of orgasms The larger that total is, the more “compatible” I feel we are. Whether I personally feel good or whether she’s good at oral sex doesn’t matter much. In addition to the woman’s looks, what matters most is whether she actually enjoys herself. I feel especially compatible with women who orgasm frequently. I got married and had children, so we no longer have sex, but my top monthly arrangement fits all of the above. I even feel that our physical compatibility during penetration is perfect. Still, even with her, I can’t shake the suspicion that it might be an act—she orgasms easily, around 20 times. Since I’m giving her money, it’s possible she’s pretending. I’m seeing her again today, but we won’t have sex. I continue giving her the same allowance as when we had an adult relationship (intimate).

There are moments in all kinds of situations when I find myself thinking, “We must really be compatible…” The woman I met through PATOLO said that something about my message had resonated with her. She received messages from many other men and had a fair number of offers, but mine was the very first message she got. However, I was the very last person she met for a first meeting. At the time, she told me that her initial feelings had been right and that she was glad she had waited to meet me. It took us a little longer to move on to the next stage of our relationship, so I assumed she might already have started seeing someone else. But it seems she had been waiting for me all along. We were both a little nervous the first time we shared a bed, but we had a fulfilling time together, both wanting each other, and we’ve already promised to meet again. Yesterday, I went on a dinner date with a woman who registered as Type A eight years ago. It has been pure dating all this time, but even after spending several hours together, we never ran out of things to talk about, and neither of us wanted to part. Once again, I found myself thinking that we must really be compatible.

A vagina that makes it easy for me to ejaculate feels like a good match. I can go for three rounds in one night: before bed, in the middle of the night, and early in the morning. That said, even if I feel we’re sexually compatible, I have no idea whether the woman feels the same. Especially with women doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), money is involved, so she may just be acting—or simply going along with me. I don’t necessarily think we’re compatible just because she orgasms from penetration or climaxes frequently. She might do the same with other men. Still, if she does climax, of course I’m happy. A completely perfect woman is hard to find. One woman is great in one way, another has different qualities, and that’s why I’ve ended up seeing multiple women. If it lasts three years, I think affection starts to become involved, rather than it being purely about compatibility. Affection and compatibility are separate things. Even if you’re not that compatible, if there’s no major negative reason to end things and you just keep seeing each other, affection naturally develops, making it harder to walk away. You could also say that if someone seems easily replaceable, the compatibility probably isn’t that special. On the other hand, if you can’t imagine finding a replacement for her, that probably means you’re highly compatible. Oh, and I don’t do this anymore, but I used to take a girl to a sex club and let her have sex with the men there—of course, with her consent. You can tell from her reactions roughly where you stand with her, so to speak. Some men were obviously better than me and seemed more compatible with her, while with others I felt I was the better match. But from a woman’s perspective, “being compatible” may simply mean that any man who can make her orgasm is a good match. Men probably feel the same way: any woman who can make them ejaculate feels compatible—especially for men who are often asked about delayed ejaculation or losing their erection. So, in the questioner’s example, the second man probably feels that he’s compatible with the questioner, while the first man may not necessarily feel that way. The questioner, however, probably does feel compatible with him.

I think scent is one factor as well. We’re used to describing someone’s facial features in words, but scent seems much harder to put into language. It may be part of what we call “chemistry”—not necessarily because someone smells pleasant, but because even a distinctive scent can be alluring.

> What does it actually mean to say that two people are compatible? Ideally, you’d say two people are compatible when they both feel good and enjoy being together. But in everyday conversation, it seems to mean that “I” found it more pleasurable than with other partners. For men, I think a woman’s reactions during intimacy are also considered part of compatibility. That’s why you don’t hear people say they’re compatible with a completely passive woman. If you did, it probably wouldn’t really be about compatibility—it would be more about her being exceptionally skilled physically.

I think it depends on the person, but there seem to be both a mental and a physical side to getting there. Sometimes, if she likes you, feels comfortable with you, and convinces herself that she can get there with you, she does. Other times, it’s purely about being good at creating the right atmosphere and having the technique. It’s not necessarily one or the other—it feels like a mixture of both, which makes it hard to put into words. Getting there doesn’t necessarily mean you’re perfectly compatible, either. It’s probably not that simple. Recently, I’ve learned how to help Fuu get there too, and I’ve started to enjoy it. But it’s also true that some women are simply easier to get there. We dated three years ago, then gradually lost touch. When we met again recently, it was amazing. She was 21 back then and is 24 now. She got a boyfriend and apparently quit papa-katsu, but they broke up. Fuu happened to contact her at just the right time, and luckily she agreed to meet. At 21, she was doing it almost out of obligation and didn’t get there, so it wasn’t much fun. But now, at 24, she’s incredibly proactive—she can get there externally, and internally too. (Though Fuu’s technique has improved dramatically over the past two years, haha. I feel like something finally clicked for her…) It was great. I’ve ended up adding another monthly arrangement. I can’t keep the rotation going. I wish I had two bodies, lol.