Today, I went to a sushi restaurant with my papa (a male supporter).

From what I’ve heard, this applies to places like sushi restaurants and teppanyaki restaurants where you sit at the counter. I think it’s because the chef or staff are right in front of you and can hear everything you say. That said, I do wonder—“women’s business”? What does that even mean? Apparently, though, it can be difficult to discuss things like the allowance or going to a hotel afterward. If you’re wondering why, it’s probably quickest to ask him directly. If it doesn’t seem appropriate to ask while you’re there, it would be more tactful to ask after leaving the restaurant.

Thanks for your question! I’m Kida, and whenever I have work I don’t feel like doing, I suddenly feel like answering questions. I really appreciate that you didn’t write, “My papa took me to a sushi restaurant.” I imagine what your papa meant was something like: “At traditional, prestigious sushi restaurants, the counter is a sacred place. Don’t snap pictures with your phone or start lecturing people about sushi. Just focus and eat.” I’ve never been to one myself, but that’s what I found people saying online. So, as Seattle-san answered, perhaps the intended message was: “Don’t talk about women at the counter—you’ll make things awkward because everyone around you can hear you. Besides, it’s a sacred place.” However, if I may add my own interpretation, it would be: “You stupid girl, don’t go shouting about hotels and who knows what when I’ve already booked this place with another girl next week. I’ll kill you.”

Maybe it’s because at a counter—or at a sushi place without private rooms—other people can overhear you.