I want to register with a dating club, but there’s a man I like, and he seems to prefer innocent, inexperienced women—someone classy and seemingly “normal.”

Even if your boyfriend isn’t specifically into innocent, classy types, there’s a high chance he’d dislike you if he found out you were registered with a dating club. Working in the nightlife industry ties you down during evening hours and involves dealing with a lot of people, so it seems difficult to keep it hidden. With papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), as long as you don’t tell him and he doesn’t look through your phone, you’ll be seeing only a limited number of people, so I think there’s a better chance you could keep it from him.

Hostess clubs and other nightlife work don’t bother me in particular. But if you can’t handle alcohol, it probably won’t work for you. If done discreetly, working through a dating club or doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) normally shouldn’t get you found out.