I think Mack’s suggestion to adjust from B to A and from C to A is the best approach.
That said, if you keep changing things too often, you’ll probably get fewer offers, so try not to overdo it.
It used to be easy to take a temporary leave of absence.
But a few years ago, someone suddenly raised the issue that since women on leave couldn’t receive offers, including them in the total number of female members amounted to inflating the membership figures. (I assume it was a complaint from a male member?)
Since then, the policy has become:
“You can take a leave of absence for up to one month. If you’ll be away longer than that, please withdraw your membership.”
It’s true that re-registering after withdrawing is easy, so in that sense there isn’t much difference between taking a leave and withdrawing.
That said, as mentioned in another question, if you withdraw, there’s a possibility you may be rejected when you try to register again. (That doesn’t happen if you take a leave of absence.) So I can’t help wondering, “Who was the male member who complained about this?”
In that case, as Mac suggests, it might be best to switch to Dating Type A when you don’t want to receive offers. (Offers are really unlikely to come in for Dating Type A.)
If the staff ask why, you could simply say something like, “I’m not currently in the mood to have an adult relationship with a man…”
Although now that there’s a section where you can enter the reason, I assume they’ve stopped making inquiries.
> I do have other papas, but I don’t think it’s appropriate to ask one papa for advice about another papa.
Some papas actually enjoy listening to people’s concerns. If you have someone like that, I think it’s perfectly fine to ask that person for advice.
If you don’t, it might be a good idea to find someone like that.
> This isn’t something Universe can get involved in, so it’s impossible to consult the staff.
I feel like there are still staff members who are willing to listen, though. Maybe there aren’t any left now?
Back when I was conducting interviews and arranging introductions, I was always happy to listen and offer advice…
There’s also a plan to provide support for Black women (and Platinum Premier women). It’s more likely than not that the plan will fall through, but if we can get it started, we’ll be able to listen to their concerns, help them out, and offer advice.
As for why this wouldn’t apply to all women: realistically, we don’t have enough staff to support every woman. To get the company’s approval, we’d have to start with something manageable, even if it only involved a small number of people. That’s the idea.
If your emotional ups and downs happen over a span of about six months, it might be fine to change your visibility status—make your profile secret, take a break, or withdraw. But if you’re changing it every month, I think that would be a nuisance.
As Misato-san said, I think most people don’t tell others about their activities in the first place. That’s what anonymous question boxes are for, although there’s a good chance that the men are also members of Universe and may be watching.
Maybe you could bite the bullet and tell another papa about seeing multiple partners, then talk it through with him.
But often, when women ask for advice, they’ve already reached a conclusion and are really just talking to get confirmation or agreement. So even if you don’t talk about it, you’ve probably already worked it out yourself.
Writing your thoughts down can also help you feel better.
Personally, I wouldn’t tell anyone.
Marika
If you’re unable to accept any offers, I think taking a leave of absence is a good option. However, once you take a leave, I believe it lasts for one month.
So taking frequent breaks whenever your emotions fluctuate may be difficult. The staff are busy too, so please try not to create too much extra work for them.
It sounds like you’re having trouble with your papa (a male supporter) and want to talk to someone about it, but you’re not sure who to turn to.
I think this activity can feel lonely, and it’s not something you can easily talk about with just anyone. That’s why I used to post questions whenever I was having trouble or feeling conflicted.
But if that’s not an option either, all I can think of is discussing it with a trustworthy papa, talking to your best friend, or asking a papa-katsu advisor.
