Joe will offer his thoughts, if I may.
Generally speaking, if you’re in a relationship where you both see each other as romantic partners, there’s probably no need to hide your personal information. However, I get the impression that you see this as a relationship that feels like a romantic one, but isn’t actually a relationship. If that’s the case, it might be best to set certain boundaries.
At the same time, I think that as you spend more time together, you naturally come to learn various things about each other. How about setting some boundaries while also letting things develop naturally? And if the man chooses to leave because of that, perhaps that’s not necessarily a bad thing either.
By the way, Joe makes a point of not prying into his partner’s personal life, and I’m not the type who wants to know everything. Perhaps because of that, once the relationship becomes closer and lasts longer, I end up finding out all sorts of things anyway. Sometimes that’s good, and sometimes it isn’t.
Maezawa here.
This is a difficult question, and I’m not sure I have a good answer, but—
As the relationship continues, I think men naturally start wanting to know more of a woman’s personal information. That may be why he keeps asking you various questions.
He may also be gauging how close the two of you are based on whether you’re willing to share those things. If you don’t tell him, he might think that you’re not close enough yet.
That said, if you don’t want to answer, I think it’s fine not to.
(Though you’ll probably need to keep deflecting the questions skillfully, as you have been.)
He may be disappointed, but I think it’s best to accept that this is just how men are and continue seeing him on that basis. Even if he asks every time, you can simply think, “I guess that’s just how he is…”
If you dislike being asked in the first place, you could tell him:
“I find it painful to be asked this every time, so I’d like to end things.”
That could lead to an immediate breakup, but he might also say:
“Okay, then I won’t ask you anymore.”
There is a real possibility that it could end the relationship, so you should only use this approach if you’re prepared for that.
