・I’m the person who asked the question about “What happened after I started taking lessons…”

¥40,000 for an adult relationship is slightly below the going rate. People who offer low allowances tend not to have much financial leeway, so they often end up treating women carelessly as well. When a woman receives a low allowance, people sympathize with her; when it’s high, some women become jealous and hurt themselves over it. papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is a world filled with very human emotions. One thing I can say is that simply being born in Japan already puts you among the fortunate. I was extremely poor, but fortunately, I was born in Japan. Being born in eastern Ukraine or Africa means having virtually no chance at all. So, while appreciating the fact that you’re able to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and receive offers, work on improving things one step at a time and aim a little higher. The “a little” is the important part. If a male member offers no allowance, report him to the club immediately. Since this is a transactional relationship, it may be difficult to have him expelled, but the club staff can flag him as someone to watch out for.

I don’t think the allowance itself is particularly high. If she’s receiving offers, then her looks are probably good, and the allowance is probably decent too. If that’s the case, maybe it comes down to how you approach the relationship? You shouldn’t get too close, but you shouldn’t stay too distant either. It’s a difficult balance, but I think it might be worth talking things through. Having topics you both enjoy, and occasionally asking for advice about work—or venting about your workplace—might help too. The person I’m seeing is more than 40 years younger than me, but she’s interested in investment talk and we invest together. Finally, it also depends on the “man.” An energetic man is great, but a cheater is a definite no. Dump that kind of man! I hope you have a wonderful encounter! P.S. Speaking of investments, there have been news reports about investment scams. If you decide to invest, please be very careful of scams, use only surplus funds, and do so at your own risk while keeping in mind that you may not necessarily make a profit（笑）

> I found out through someone who knows him… > Is there anything else I can do in a situation like this? This is difficult to prevent. The only option would be to somehow find out who that friend is—then you could simply hide that person as well—but that’s not easy. It may be quicker to accept that you and someone like that just weren’t meant to cross paths and move on. > As for me, I was taking the stance of simply saying, “I’ll leave it up to you.” This works very well when the man is a decent person, but if he isn’t, you can end up with the kind of result you described. That said, I think you can usually tell from how things go on the first date, rather than waiting until an overnight date—for example, if the allowance is lower than expected. On the first date, did he give you a generous amount even though you left it up to him? Or did you suddenly go on an overnight date after the dinner date? Also, after hearing all this, I wonder if there might be something that attracts the wrong kind of men. > How long does it take for this to reset? I think it resets after 30 days, but you don’t have to wait that long. If you press the “You’re wonderful” button for the same person again, you can undo it. After that, you’ll be able to send it again.

If you can only find out through acquaintances, there’s not much you can do. If he leaves everything up to you and gives you nothing, then he clearly doesn’t have any feelings for you, so you should end things soon. As for the allowance, it’s probably around the median. You can increase it by finding someone who’s crazy about you. Good luck.