My papa once suggested staying overnight somewhere in Tokyo, but since I live in Tokyo, I told him that if we were staying overnight, I’d rather go somewhere like Hakone or Karuizawa.
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Then he said, “In that case, why don’t we take a trip for your birthday?” From the way he talked about it, it seems like my birthday present is going to be the trip, and honestly, I’m not happy about that.
If that’s the case, I’d rather receive a regular present and skip the overnight trip.
I want to clarify this, but I don’t want him to think I’m obsessed with money, so I’m not sure how to bring it up.
Last year, my birthday present was cosmetics from a department store.
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There’s no magic phrase that will stop your papa from seeing you as money-hungry, given what you’re asking for.
Because, to put it mildly, you are money-hungry. I’m not mocking you—that’s perfectly normal here. What bothers me is your attitude of not wanting to be seen that way.
You should follow Princess Nana’s example.
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Why not tell him, “Hakone sounds nice for my birthday, but I’d really love to go to ○○ in Tokyo instead ♡ I saw it on Instagram (or in a magazine or on TV) and it made me want to visit!” Include the URL in your LINE message, too.
That’s what I would do. If you spend your birthday relaxing at a luxury hotel in Tokyo, he might even buy you some high-end department-store cosmetics while you’re there.
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How about saying something like:
“I’d like you to celebrate my birthday like you did last year. I’d be happier if we took the trip on a different day.”
I don’t know whether it will work, but I think it should get across that you don’t want the trip to count as your birthday present. And phrasing it this way probably won’t make you seem money-hungry.
He might think you’re being a little demanding, but I get the feeling your relationship is established enough for that to be okay.
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You’re both as bad as each other.
If you can stay with someone for years without even being able to say something that simple, you’re nothing but a complete money-grubber.
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This time, it feels like it’ll be difficult to change things, so I guess all you can do is be careful about what you say from now on. But it’s exhausting dealing with someone who doesn’t think about what they say.
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Obviously, if a PJ lives in Tokyo, she’s active around Tokyo, and if she lives outside the city, she stays closer to home—and naturally spends nights at hotels with her papa (male supporter), right?
Since he’s going there to fulfill your wish to visit places like Hakone or Karuizawa, isn’t it only natural for it to be considered a present?
If you don’t think ahead about how your words and actions might be interpreted, things can head in an unexpected direction.
Use your head when doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
Marika
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