Follow-up: Is papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) considered irresponsible?
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Thank you all for your answers.
I’m always deeply moved by Aya’s intelligent and warm advice in particular.
That friend is a man, and although he is quite supportive of stay-at-home wives (we used to date, and when marriage came up, we grew apart because our views differed—I wanted to continue working), he says he can’t respect papa-katsu because it looks like relying on men. He says things like, “Becoming men’s slaves for money...”
However, through the club, I only date men whose individual qualities I genuinely like. Even without the allowance, they’re all people I look forward to seeing, so I don’t feel like a slave at all. They always treat me wonderfully, and sometimes I even think being cherished by several papas is a better deal than becoming a stay-at-home wife. So why is being a stay-at-home wife acceptable, while papa-katsu isn’t? I understand that people disapprove because it can involve infidelity, but I feel that what we’re doing is simply mutually treating each other well, which is a little different from relying on someone.
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Men are women’s slaves.
Just like male insects that gather food and show off, desperately trying to ejaculate.
Males who can’t provide, or who suffer from delayed ejaculation, have no right to pass on their genes.
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You’re really going to tell your ex that you do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?
I couldn’t do that, Fuu.
I can only talk about it with a close female friend who understands me.
It’s something I’ll take to my grave.
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There are men who immediately look displeased when a woman they have even a little interest in—or, to put it bluntly, a woman they think they could get with—doesn’t act the way they want her to.
If he was your ex, then even more emotions were probably swirling around, along with frustration that you weren’t doing what he wanted.
A stay-at-home wife is a system suited to raising children within a monogamous marriage, so I don’t think it can really be compared directly with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). (To be honest, I sometimes wonder what the point of being a stay-at-home wife is if there are no children.)
At their core, I think both being a stay-at-home wife and papa-katsu involve a woman depending on a man’s financial resources. But whether or not children are part of the arrangement makes a huge difference.
I also like my papa (a male supporter) enough that I’d want to be with him even without the money. But if you take away the fact that he’s wealthy, then honestly, he probably wants a young, beautiful mistress in the first place because he’s wealthy. So in that sense, I do feel that I’m relying on a man’s financial resources.
That said, I really relate to your feeling that the two of you are “both taking care of each other,” and I think that’s something your papa appreciates too. Please continue to cherish that feeling.
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As you said, a stay-at-home wife also manages her life with money provided by a man, so the two may be somewhat similar.
If that’s really how you feel, then why not simply stop worrying about what other people say?
An ordinary man generally lives by society’s conventional values, so he probably wouldn’t be able to accept papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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That man wanted you to become his partner or dependent, didn’t he?
But you turned him down.
And now you’re involved with another man in a relationship that isn’t clearly defined. Given the circumstances, I think he gave an entirely rational and gentlemanly response.
I think you chose the wrong person to talk to. It’s a mistake to seek an objective opinion from someone with a vested interest—and to assume that their opinion is objective.
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