Tips Feb 25, 2022 00:02

Sometimes I really don’t want to see my papa (a male supporter). I think it’s probably because I feel bad about being involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). (I have circumstances that mean I have to do it.)

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Right now, I don’t want to see him either, and I’m even feeling disgust toward someone I’ve been seeing and getting along well with for two years. Is this something like a rough patch? I have all kinds of feelings, but I’m exhausted from forcing myself to act cheerful. Do any of you women ever feel like you really don’t want to see your papa? And when you feel that way, how do you mentally prepare yourself to go through with papa-katsu?
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You’re probably exhausted from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). I think you should quit. It’s not worth doing if it’s taking a toll on your mental health.
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A~Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月1程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
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I think you may be feeling a little emotionally drained. It might be a good idea to take a short break. If you’ve been seeing him for two years, I imagine he’d understand if you told him that you’re feeling mentally exhausted and would like to space things out a bit…
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I did at first, though that papa was different from the one I’m seeing now. If you keep forcing yourself to accommodate someone, it gradually becomes too much, and you eventually end things. When that happens, I guess you just have to focus on the allowance. If I were paying someone ¥X, or even ¥XX, I’d expect a pretty high level of service. Salespeople probably put extra effort into meeting their major clients, too. So it might help to think of your papa as a customer and yourself as a salesperson making a client visit. Making your papa happy leads to your allowance, and that makes you happy too. I’m not really into the mindset I often see in Q&A posts, like “I go on a huge shopping spree before or after seeing my papa to unwind” or “I eat a ton of ramen,” so I don’t do that. Stress goes away if you sleep, so I think sleeping is the best way to unwind.
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