Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu here.
> If an offer comes in but doesn’t result in a match, is it still counted toward the total number of offers?
Strictly speaking, if an offer is made, I believe it counts as an offer even if it doesn’t lead to a successful match.
However, the total number of offers isn’t made public, and we don’t tell the men either.
If asked whether the number is high or low, staff may reluctantly give a general answer. But when a man asks, “How many offers has this woman received?” what he really wants to know is probably the number of successful arrangements, even though he uses the word “offers.” So most staff would likely look at the number of successful arrangements and answer something like, “It seems a bit low.”
> I received an offer and was asked to provide dates that worked for me. I gave them about five days, but none of them worked for him, so the arrangement fell through.
Could this possibly be…?
There was a man like that before. Could it have been the same person?
He would have the woman list a whole bunch of dates that worked for her, then look at them and decide not to make the offer.
He was a pretty selfish man. On top of that, he would ask us to check with about five women he had shortlisted at the same time.
Well, there are some strange people like that ＞＜
That said, for example, if a man offers a specific date and time, and you’re unavailable that day so you provide five alternative dates, he may have only been considering that original date. In that case, it can still end without a successful match.
> Does the profile mention things like being difficult to arrange a meeting with?
If, during the interview, the woman says something like, “I can only meet on Wednesdays,” it may be noted that way.
But if an offer comes in and she can provide five possible dates, it wouldn’t be written that she’s difficult to arrange a meeting with.
The problem is on the man’s side.
Men can’t see figures like the total number of offers, and I’ve never seen comments saying that settings are difficult to arrange.
If someone specifies weekday daytime, they probably won’t receive many offers in the first place. But if you’re getting lots of offers, there’s nothing to worry about.
Also, even if there were negative comments, if she’s my type, I’d make an offer without hesitating for even a second.
As an extra note, you sometimes see comments like, “She’s slow to reply.” But when you’re a papa who gives a generous allowance like me, she’ll reply within seconds and won’t be late once you start seeing each other. That’s just how it works.
I’m Dai, a male member.
The number of offers a woman has generally isn’t listed on her club profile.
The only exception is that profiles may sometimes have a tag indicating zero offers.
So if a man wants to know how many offers a woman has received, he has to ask the club directly. Even then, they’ll usually give only a vague answer, such as saying it’s no more than five.
Profiles almost never state that someone is difficult to match with.
Sometimes, after meeting someone for the first time without knowing this, you may hear that, like in your case, scheduling didn’t work out with several men because their availability didn’t line up.
It won’t put you at a disadvantage, so there’s no need to worry about it.
