A question for the female members: I’ve heard from several women I’ve met through Universe that, even when they have a boyfriend, they’re able to view papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) as something completely separate and maintain their emotional balance with little to no sense of guilt.
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How do you mentally compartmentalize it? Do you see sex with a papa (a male supporter) as impersonal and completely different from sex with your boyfriend?
Also, if that’s how you see it, have you felt that way since you started papa-katsu, or did you gradually come to think of it that way?
You may be right, Mac.
But I actually like all the men I’m seeing. None of my relationships are just about money.
Also, I think I could handle polyamory.
Marika
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I’m Ayase Nana ☆
Why are you getting so worked up about the fact that the person asking the question does papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) while also having a serious boyfriend?
Men have friends-with-benefits, visit hostess clubs and sex venues, and consider that not cheating, right? Isn’t it misguided to ignore your own behavior while blaming only women?
papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is a learning experience in life, while her serious boyfriend is the one giving her love.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
As for putting your feelings in order, it’s the same as a married man telling himself that going to a brothel doesn’t count as cheating.
He’s simply making excuses that suit him.
Whether it’s with a boyfriend or a papa-katsu partner, I don’t think the physical act—or the pleasure—feels any different.
That said, it’s probably true that being more emotionally invested with a boyfriend can make it feel better.
But some boyfriends are bad at it, too. And some papa-katsu partners are very good.
Regardless of whether he’s a boyfriend or a papa-katsu partner, being with a man who’s simply bad at it probably turns intimacy into a cold, mechanical experience where you just think, “I wish this would be over.”
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Even a papa sees it as something completely different from an affair, with no sense that he’s cheating at all…
Romance and papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) are two different things.
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