Regarding the previous question: To what extent do both the male questioner and the woman involved truly care about the child?
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I even get the feeling that the father, who is absent and only provides money, and the mother, who prioritizes money and beauty, doesn’t work, and leaves the child’s upbringing to a babysitter, might neglect the child if her relationship with the man deteriorates.
Please don’t involve an innocent child in your own desire for personal gain. Money is important, but I don’t believe money alone can make a child happy.
The two of you should exchange money, practice safe sex, and enjoy yourselves while fulfilling your desires.
It’s me.
What’s wrong with that?
> A father who’s absent but only gives money
Isn’t that better than a father who’s always there but doesn’t give any money?
> A mother who has a babysitter raise her children
I wish we could get to a point where it’s easier to leave your kids with a babysitter. It would help reduce all kinds of social issues, including the declining birthrate, gender inequality, and depopulation in rural areas—and it would also lead to better quality and treatment for babysitters.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I understand what you’re saying.
Mothers who prioritize money and their appearance, don’t work, and have a babysitter raise their children—that happens in real marriages too, not just in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
Even if you think it’s sad for the child, no one has the right to interfere in someone else’s family and tell them to stop.
If you feel it would be sad for a child to be raised that way, all you have to do is make sure you don’t raise your own children that way.
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I’m Shingo Lee, a columnist.
You should read some books.
After the age of three, a child’s development is determined entirely by genetics and environment. They grow up on their own. Parents’ day-to-day guidance doesn’t affect their development. If anything, their daily interactions with friends have a greater influence.
Education theories based on old-fashioned assumptions like yours are toxic too. You’re a prospective “toxic parent.”
Unless you read more evidence-based books, your way of thinking is going to keep sounding like it’s from the Showa era.
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I’m a male member who’s definitely on the losing end.
Kids grow up on their own.
My father was a truly awful man—he was violent and constantly cheated on my mother.
I’ve lost count of how many hundreds of times he hit me. It may have been over a thousand.
Wait… if I’m doing papa-katsu now, does that mean I didn’t exactly grow up properly either? (LOL)
By the way, I don’t resent my old man.
Seeing him holed up at home, terrified of COVID, I almost feel sorry for him instead.
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