I'm the loser guy among the male members.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. I agree that automatically hiding a profile after an offer is made could be a good idea. But I’m naturally pretty jealous, so I’d find myself wondering, “Are you still active after that? Are you accepting other offers?” Most women would probably feel obliged to say, “No, I’m not,” which would only increase the number of people lying. Personally, I’d feel more at ease if someone who’s still active kept their profile visible—I wouldn’t feel like I had to support them all by myself. But since men like that don’t seem to be in the majority, I can see why automatic hiding might be a reasonable option.

> Automatically hidden after you go on a date. That’s how it should be in the first place. Right? This has gotten to the point where questions like this are being asked about as often as, “I went for an interview a week ago, but haven’t heard back. Did I not get the position?” I was starting to wonder whether it was even worth answering. But, as mentioned in another question, I figured it couldn’t be improved unless the men—who are the ones paying—requested it, since the women are the ones inconvenienced. Marika

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here, too. > Is there really no love here (of course there isn’t, but let me dream—*sobs*)? I think love does exist, but it’s extremely rare. That said, I think there are plenty of women who can make you feel like you’re living a dream. By the way, it seems some men are shocked when they’re individually hidden from a woman’s profile. But honestly, the system itself is at fault. Profiles should automatically be hidden after a date. That’s how it should work. Why should you need to keep viewing someone after you’ve already gone on a date? That’s nothing but male ego. Treating women like objects—or like exhibits in a zoo—is just too awful. I can understand needing to view someone before going on a date, but there’s absolutely no reason to keep viewing them afterward. If everyone’s profile were automatically hidden individually after a date, then even if a man complained to the staff, they could simply say, “That’s how the system works, so there’s nothing we can do.” Even without changing the system, the staff could handle it by standardizing the company rules. So why doesn’t anyone do it…? If I were in charge of that department, I’d take care of it. Honestly, I don’t want to see any more stories about men being hurt by this or women finding it difficult to stay active. This is an issue that could be solved simply by making it automatic and saying, “That’s just how it works, so please accept it.” Why create more unhappy people? Seriously…

I’m Kazu, a male member. > Is there no love here (in a dating club)? That’s your question, right? I believe there is. Even a three-year-old will lie to avoid getting scolded. It’s not that people don’t lie because they’re pure; sometimes they lie precisely because they’re pure. And because a pure person’s lies aren’t carefully prepared, they can also be exposed rather easily. I do think that “forgiving women’s lies is one of a papa’s jobs,” but in my case, I believe that “forgiving a woman’s well-crafted lies is one of a papa’s jobs.” Accepting poorly told lies may lead a woman to mistakenly believe, “I can get through life with lies this obvious.” Living with that misunderstanding would only make things harder for her. That’s why I think it’s important for her to learn that “telling an obvious lie will bring trouble.” That’s what life experience is all about. The presence or absence of lies and the presence or absence of love are separate matters. It’s not as though love cannot exist if there are lies. For example, there are lies told to avoid hurting someone, and lies told precisely because you love someone. Even though this is an allowance-based relationship, it’s still a relationship between two people, so it’s possible for special feelings toward the other person to develop. Whether you call that love is up to each individual, but I do believe love can exist in relationships arranged through a dating club. 追加 after reading Maezawa-san’s answer: > Automatically hidden after a date. Last year it was online dates, and this year it’s letter dates, so there’s now a longer gap between the arrangement and the actual date. When I’m choosing a place to meet a woman in person, I often refer to the “Regarding offers” section of her profile so I don’t keep emailing back and forth and end up annoying her. If “hidden after meeting in person” is how it works, then I don’t see a problem with that.

I’m a losing guy among the male members. Sorry for not actually asking a question. m(_ _)m