Someone I turned down after he suggested entering into an arrangement at our first meeting just messaged me saying he wants to see me.
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At the time, the terms he proposed were so unreasonable that I politely declined while pointing them out:
・Allowance paid per meeting
・I couldn’t see anyone else—including having a boyfriend
・The amount would be 20,000 yen
Also, given both our schedules, we probably would only have been able to meet once or twice a month.
This time, he said he’d prepare an allowance of 50,000 yen or more and wanted to see me, regardless of any arrangement. It sounded like a one-time meeting, and the terms had improved, so I agreed.
Even before he contacted me, I had several people I regularly met, and those relationships are still ongoing. They’re all okay with me seeing multiple people.
If he asks about my current situation when we meet, do you think I should avoid mentioning that I have other papas? He seems like a very proud person.
Personally, I’m hung up on the “or more” in “50,000 yen or more.” The fact that he deliberately left it open-ended makes me feel like he expects something from me.
As long as we meet, I’m prepared to put in the effort physically and be pleasant, but I still wonder whether I should hide the fact that I have other papas.
Honestly, I’m pretty proud myself, so I can’t help wanting to tell him that I have multiple papas and get paid more than that, lol.
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
Since you’re both the type with pretty high pride, I think it’s perfectly fine for both of you to keep your standards high in this case. I’d actually love to be there and see it happen（笑).
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I’m Dai, a male member.
Personally, I wouldn’t trust someone who suggests entering into a mistress arrangement at the very first meeting.
And when the allowance suddenly jumps from 2 to 5, to be honest, it makes me suspicious of them as a person.
Still, if you’re going to meet him, make sure you don’t let your guard down.
For example, it would be awful if he offered 5 as the allowance, then secretly filmed you and posted the video on social media.
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I’m a hopeless male member.
Try acting shy and hesitant, saying:
“I only have one papa (a male supporter). We meet twice a month, and he gives me an allowance of 6 each time, so I’m worried my income will become unstable if I break things off with him…”
If things go well, he might become a new papa who meets you twice a month for 6 or 7 each time.
Of course, it’s fine to tell him, “I understand. I’ll break things off with my current papa,” while keeping all your other papas on the side.
After all, that papa probably has other women too.
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I’ll answer this as Maezawa from the president’s office.
> I sometimes wonder if I should hide the fact that I have other papas.
I don’t think you need to hide it, but as a general rule, you shouldn’t bring it up unless they ask.
Even if they do ask, you could say, “That’s a secret,” without confirming or denying anything, and stay vague about it.
(That said, I think it helps to give off the impression that having other papas is perfectly normal.)
> I’m actually quite proud, so I can’t help wanting to say that I have multiple papas and earn more, haha.
Why not meet him and have dinner together, then say something like:
“Honestly, I’d like an allowance of 100,000 yen. Would that be okay?
I thought it might be rude to discuss the amount over LINE…”
If that doesn’t work, I think it’s fine to just have dinner and leave.
When he said “50,000 yen or more,” do you think even 50,000 yen might be difficult for him?
It sounds more like he’d be happy if 50,000 yen worked out.
So I’d guess his upper limit is probably around 70,000 yen, but I think it’s fine for you to tell him what you’re hoping for.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
Personally, I would keep quiet about having other papas. It leaves a better impression, and things tend to work out better for me when the other person can maintain a certain idealized image. But everyone is different, so you might want to see how he responds and decide from there.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think you’re misunderstanding what pride means. That man is simply an insecure, selfish person, while you seem more concerned with appearances.
If you want to continue seeing him comfortably, I think you should mention that you have a papa (a male supporter) when he asks how things are going. That way, you’ll find out whether he really withdrew his original terms.
However, if you’re planning to keep seeing him while skillfully managing him, it would be better not to mention your other papas. He may start asking how long you intend to remain registered with the club, so you might have to keep working to preserve the fantasy you’ve created for him.
That said, if the pay-per-meeting allowance suddenly went from 2 to 5 or more, unless he was a complete beginner, I can’t help wondering what that initial 2 was supposed to mean. I have a feeling this won’t last.
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