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Aug 28, 2021 16:06
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🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
Somehow, the definition of a monthly arrangement seems to have become unclear, or perhaps it differs from person to person.
To me, a monthly arrangement means that if the allowance is ¥300,000 per month, you still pay ¥300,000 even if you don’t meet at all that month. Conversely, even if you meet ten times in a month, the amount doesn’t increase beyond ¥300,000.
That’s what I understand a monthly arrangement to be.
So if a woman can’t meet because of COVID-19 and doesn’t receive her allowance despite being in a monthly arrangement, I think the man is being awful. In that case, he should have made it pay-per-meeting from the start.
As for the main point, I think some men may feel that even if they stay overnight, there should be no additional payment because it’s a monthly arrangement. As I explained above, that’s what a monthly arrangement means to me.
If you want an additional payment for an overnight stay, I think it would be better to end the monthly arrangement and switch to pay-per-meeting instead.
With pay-per-meeting arrangements, it seems perfectly normal for an overnight stay to come with an additional payment. If a man objects to that, I feel he may have a somewhat different understanding of the situation.
In this case, rather than asking for an additional payment, I think it would be better to decline the overnight stay altogether.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member.
Try asking, and let me know how it goes.
Personally, I don’t request overnight stays because I feel like that would probably lead to those kinds of expectations.
Other
I’m Nana Ayase ☆
Are you planning to ask for an additional allowance for staying overnight on top of the overnight date? They’re already covering the hotel, meals, and transportation, right? Don’t you think that’s being a little too greedy?
That alone is already a substantial amount. If they offer it, that’s fine, but you shouldn’t be the one asking for it.
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m a male member who’s definitely not one of the winners.
When I stay overnight with someone on a monthly arrangement, I usually count it as two adult dates.
For trips that last one night, I’ve also adjusted things by agreeing that there would be no adult relationship during the trip.
I’ll ask something like, “Since staying over takes up a lot of your time, would it be okay to count it as two dates?” and get her approval. I don’t want to feel like I owe her anything.
Other
I’m Aya, a female member.
You can ask, but I think he’d really come to dislike you. I only have a papa on a monthly arrangement, and I don’t ask for anything extra, even when I stay overnight. I think being compliant is better in the long run, since your allowance may eventually increase.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.
Isn’t that something the man gives you? If he’s willing to give it to you...
🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
No way, lol.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I don’t think it’s necessarily safe.