How should I refuse men who try to have unprotected sex?
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Both of my monthly supporters try to penetrate me without a condom every time.
When I tell them to put one on, they put it on while complaining, “Not this time either, huh?”
At worst, one of them has even inserted just the tip.....
・Fear of STIs
・Fear of bacterial infections (This may not be related to bacterial infections, but the men who say things like that often have a strong fishy odor around their genitals, and their allowance is low.)
・Fear of pregnancy
・The financial and physical burden of taking the pill (The side effects, such as severe swelling and nausea, make it difficult for me to continue taking it.)
There are various other reasons as well.
Unless they increase my allowance, there is no benefit for me—only disadvantages.
But even if I explain these points rationally, I doubt men like that would understand. They would probably take offense and cut ties with me instead.
Considering my financial situation, I still want to continue seeing them for now.
How should I keep refusing them going forward.....?
It’s extremely stressful.
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s Office, and I’ll answer as well.
> But I feel that even if I point out the facts above and make a reasonable argument, men like that won’t understand. They’ll probably just feel offended and cut me off.
As long as you’re careful about how you phrase it, I don’t think many men would take offense at a reasonable argument.
That said, men will each come up with their own excuses, so even if you explain things logically, I imagine they’ll just respond with something baseless like, “It’s fine.”
> How should I keep turning him down from now on...?
Your current way of turning him down seems fairly gentle, so the safest option is probably to continue declining him in a similar way.
However, if this is causing you stress, I think it would also be fine to end things. If you’re prepared for that, you could be more direct and say something as firm as:
“If you bring up an adult relationship again, I’ll end things with you.”
That would be perfectly reasonable.
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I’m columnist Fuu.
The issue of going bare comes up in the question box from time to time.
Basically, “If you don’t like something, say no.”
But I understand that some of you feel you have no choice but to keep seeing even those papas for the money—and that if you refuse and lose those two papas, you may not get any other offers.
My advice is to put up with it until COVID settles down and keep insisting that going bare is off the table.
Once things calm down, don’t just wait for offers. Take part in club events and actively look for good papas. The club’s events have been canceled because of COVID, but I’m sure they’ll resume once things settle down.
P.S.
Come to think of it, inspired by date◎yume’s answer: At high-end soaplands, there was a tactic where a condom could be put on with the mouth during oral, so you wouldn’t know exactly when it was put on before moving on to penetration. That was an option too.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
Haha（笑）
That’s a good question（笑）
I think you should make intimacy something you both enjoy.
When you feel it’s about to happen, take the initiative by saying, “I’ll put it on for you.”
If he says, “I guess it’s not happening today either,” just smile and reply, “No, not today.”
Let’s make dating fun and mutually beneficial for both of you...
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I’m Hikoki, a male member.
If it’s causing you that much stress, I don’t think you need to continue seeing her.
Even if you keep seeing a man who doesn’t do what his partner wants every time, I don’t think you’ll get any real comfort from the relationship.
Even in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), for a woman, the moment after penetration is when she wants to relax. If this kind of interaction happens, she won’t be able to feel at ease or truly satisfied.
I used to have unprotected sex with my long-term girlfriend and ejaculate on her stomach, but when you consider the cleanup afterward, using a condom in papa-katsu has its advantages.
Remaining inside after you both climax, slowly savoring the lingering sensation until you pull out, and then falling asleep right afterward can feel just as good—or even better—than ejaculating outside the vagina without protection.
If you’re doing papa-katsu anyway, you’d rather continue seeing someone you can end each meeting feeling good with, right?
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think saying, “I can’t take the pill due to my constitution, and I’d be worried about getting pregnant,” is perfectly fine.
However, “There’s no benefit to the woman unless you increase the allowance” is unnecessary. Does the person asking think it would be okay to go without protection if the allowance were increased? If so, she should simply say, “If we’re not using protection, I’d need three times the allowance.”
“Not this time either, huh?” That’s awful. Sorry, but it made me laugh.
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This is Nana Ayase♡
Please say goodbye to someone that selfish as soon as possible, and let the staff know via LINE.
If he smells like squid, maybe he hasn’t been washing properly…
Maybe his breath smells too…
Even if the allowance goes up, don’t do it.
What if he has AIDS? Or hepatitis B or C?
There’s no medication that completely cures them.
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