People tell me that I may have been deprived of affection when I was little, but I’ve never known any family other than my own, so I don’t know whether that’s true. I do feel that I don’t have many memories of being praised, though.
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Even at work, I sometimes feel like acting childishly around men who somehow remind me of my father.
I feel ashamed of myself because, even I think there’s something twisted about it. But even so, I can’t help feeling a strong flutter in my chest when someone talks to me, worries about me, or gently advises me as if explaining something to a small child.
I shouldn’t be looking for a father figure in other people, should I? It makes me sad to think that I might spend my whole life yearning for paternal affection.
I want to change this about myself...
I’m Aya, a female member.
I don’t think there’s such a clear distinction between acting spoiled in a lover-like way and seeking affection from a father figure. So I don’t think you need to worry about it too much.
Maybe because I grew up in a strict household, I developed a preference for seeking affection from a papa rather than my own father. But I think it’s a good thing to have someone you can rely on and be needy with. My papa has been a real source of support, and I’m very grateful to him. So please don’t worry about it.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I’d like to look at this from a slightly different angle…
This time, it’s about “getting butterflies when someone treats you like a child,” but I think it’s important to cherish the emotions stirred in us by certain experiences.
As life goes around, we sometimes find ourselves in situations that are somehow similar to ones we’ve experienced before—or different in form, but similar in nature—with our positions reversed.
When that happens, we may think, “I remember feeling this way,” and become someone who can understand other people’s pain.
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I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this too.
> “I want to change…”
I don’t think there’s any need for you to change at all.
It seems perfectly natural to want to be with someone who comforts you or makes your heart flutter.
Perhaps, at some point, you may develop feelings that are different from what you feel now. Until then, I think it’s fine to stay just as you are.
I also get the impression that the man you’re seeing likes you for who you are.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
It’s just a feeling, but as everyone gradually becomes more independent from their parents, I think it will naturally get better with time. For example, building up successful experiences and gaining a stronger sense of self-worth.
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