I’m a woman considering joining. If I want to take the stance that I’m open to an adult relationship (intimate) with younger men around 40 or under, but generally dinner only (no intimacy) with men older than that, would my relationship type be B?
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It’s not meant as age discrimination, but I just can’t help feeling uncomfortable having an adult relationship (intimate) with someone around my father’s age or older…
I’m Dai, a male member.
Some women do have that kind of stance.
However, if you already know from a man’s age that an offer from someone in his 50s would likely be dinner only, going on a date anyway could end up being a waste of his time.
If you want to be considerate of your partner, be upfront during your interview with the club that you’re only open to an adult relationship (intimate) with men up to age 40.
If that’s the case, and you’re comfortable developing an adult relationship (intimate) from the first meeting with men up to 40, then I think Type C would be appropriate.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
> I’d like to take the stance that I’m open to an adult relationship (intimate) with younger women up to around 40, but with women older than that, I’d generally prefer dinner only (no intimacy). In that case, would my dating type be B?
That kind of arrangement is certainly possible. I’d recommend telling the club and asking them to guide you accordingly. I’d really appreciate it if you could include that in your profile（笑）.
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
For now, please register as B.
If you choose C, I’d be uncomfortable if someone came with certain intentions.
I’m thinking I might go with B too.
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I’ll answer as Maezawa from the president’s office.
If the person is under 40 and there’s a 50% chance they’ll be open to an adult relationship from the first day, then the dating type would be C.
In that case, the club comment or relationship preferences section would probably say something like, “Ideally, someone around 40 or younger.”
That said, I do wonder whether you can really distinguish between someone who’s 50 but looks young and someone who’s 30 but looks older.
If you divide people by age, it would mean someone who looks 60 but is actually 40 would be acceptable—which makes me think this is really about appearance.
So I don’t think setting an age cutoff has much meaning. If you’re going to specify something, it might be better to say:
“I don’t have a specific age requirement, but I’d like a long-term relationship with someone who looks around 40 or younger.”
Then, even if you meet in person and think, “They look a little older than expected,” you might decide, “Well, they’re kind and a good guy, so I guess it’s fine.”
That’s why the first meeting is usually over a meal, and even with type C, you can still turn things down.
I recommend meeting first and making your decision then.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Either Type B or Type C could work, but if you’re open to an adult relationship with younger men from the first day, I think Type C would be better.
For age, I’d suggest setting the limit at around the 30s or early 30s, and choosing something like looks 5–6, money 3–2, and personality 2.
Men will often make offers even when the age limit allows someone only about 15 years younger, and they’re even more likely to do so if looks aren’t your top priority.
Also, to men in their 40s or 50s, someone in their 60s may still seem young compared with someone in their 60s or 70s. In fact, they may welcome someone with an age limit because it makes them more inclined to make an offer. So I think it’s fine to set the age limit fairly strictly.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Like Papuwa, I think option B is probably the safest, but if you feel you could turn down same-day invitations from men who haven’t read your profile, option C should be fine too.
As for age limits, I often see women mention them in their profiles. During your interview, I suggest explaining your preferences and asking the club to include them in your profile. They should also be able to advise you on which type of arrangement would suit you.
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