What’s with men who brag about seeing women without paying them an allowance? I recently met a man after being approached, and he showed me photos of several women while bragging, “They’re women from the club, but they tell me they don’t need an allowance,” and “Women don’t take money from men they really like.” I was just thinking, “Good for you, I guess?” I didn’t come here to find a boyfriend—I’m seeing an older man who’s old enough to be my father because I want money and a pseudo-romantic relationship. What is this guy even talking about?
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If he’s bragging about it, does that mean he doesn’t want women to ask for an allowance? Then why doesn’t he use a matchmaking club or pursue a relationship where no allowance is involved at all? I don’t understand why he’s even a member of the club.
“Creepy, delusional jerk” should do the trick.
Anyone who’s overly eager to show off photos is 120% misunderstanding the situation and just bragging about how popular he is.
“Wow, that’s unusual! *Smile*”
Then block him.
Akari
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Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu here as well.
He’s a man who completely misunderstands what a dating club is. Please keep giving him poor ratings and leaving feedback.
If every woman gives him the lowest possible rating and negative feedback, he can be dealt with through:
Caution → Warning → Forced removal from the club
That’s how we can weed out men who don’t understand the arrangement.
Of course, he’ll probably make excuses like, “I know you’re supposed to pay compensation at the club. I was just bragging,” so he won’t be eliminated that easily.
But if every woman he dates keeps submitting the lowest possible rating, those excuses won’t hold up anymore.
Naturally, I think the feedback should say something like:
“He talked about pursuing a relationship without providing any compensation. It seems he misunderstands what a dating club is. I was able to let it go, but I imagine some women could be hurt by those comments, so I decided to leave this feedback.”
Then set every category to the most negative rating possible (-2?) and submit it.
I don’t think you need to give individual categories a 0 here or there. It’s not exactly “if you dislike the monk, you dislike his robes too,” but I do think it’s possible for everything about someone to look bad once you’ve had that kind of experience.
Please make use of the male rating system.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I assume the reason he doesn’t use a marriage-oriented club is that he doesn’t want to get married. For him, a dating club is probably simply the most convenient place to meet women, which is why he uses one.
As long as he’s giving them transportation money, I can chalk that up to “not my problem.” But showing other people their photos without permission is not something I can just brush off.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
If the man in question really liked that woman, he wouldn’t be meeting you in the first place. And whether through an allowance or otherwise, he’d probably already be doing whatever he could for the woman he likes.
He’s a classic example of a guy who takes what a club woman says at face value and then goes around telling other people, completely misunderstanding the situation.
He should’ve just kept it to himself…
Just write him off as a pathetic guy and move on.
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
He’s rude to absolutely everyone, isn’t he?
He lowers the club’s standing, exposes the faces of those women who weren’t even receiving an allowance to third parties without their consent, and makes you uncomfortable too.
That’s practically a crime. He should be arrested for breaking the law, haha.
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He just wants to brag about how popular he is. I doubt he’s actually expecting you to say, “I’m pretty popular too.”
Just go with, “Oh, really?” and let it go in one ear and out the other.
Marika
After saying, “Oh, really?” you could put on an exaggerated look of surprise and say, “You’re quite an unusual woman,” so she might realize she’s bragging about something stupid.
Although… maybe she still wouldn’t get it.
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