I’m the person who asked the previous question. I’m not lying.
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Public assistance is provided on a household basis, but once a child graduates from high school, they must leave the public assistance program (separate household). Until now, my mother and four children had been receiving assistance for five people, but after I left the household, it became a four-person household and the amount of assistance dropped significantly. My mother works part-time, but because her income is below the minimum living expenses set by the prefecture, she receives the difference as public assistance.
*In my previous question, “I applied to leave public assistance” was a mistake—I meant “I left public assistance.”*
I still live with my family, but I graduated from high school in March and became a separate household. Of course, I’m also taking out student loans, and because I received a tuition reduction from my university for having excellent grades in high school, my actual tuition expenses are relatively low.
What I want to write is something along the lines of:
“I’m working part-time because I want to help my mother, whose household finances have become difficult because my university enrollment caused her public assistance to decrease. However, I also wanted money of my own, so I registered with a dating club.”
Would it be better not to mention this?
I’m Shingo Lee, a columnist.
It really is strange that children from households receiving public assistance can’t attend university unless they separate their household registration. I can’t imagine how much hardship you’ve been through. I hope these kinds of contradictions in the system are corrected soon.
That said, if I saw something like this written in a profile, it would honestly tug at my heartstrings. But most people would probably be put off or assume it was a lie, so I don’t recommend it.
There’s a big difference between:
“Here’s some delicious homemade bread. Please buy some!”
and:
“I became someone’s guarantor and ended up with a mountain of debt. Could you please buy some bread?”
I think many more people would dislike the second one.
Whenever you’re trying to promote or sell something, present it using positive language.
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I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this as well.
> Is it better not to write it?
I don’t think you need to go out of your way to mention it.
When you meet, they’ll usually ask why anyway
(I’m not sure why they ask（笑）).
You can just explain it then.
If you want to appeal to men, I think it’s better to write things that make them want to meet you.
There are certain things men tend to like, so you could mention those, or write something unusual to spark their interest.
I think you’ll get better results by focusing on things like that.
However, if you write something untrue, the arrangement won’t last, so you need to be honest.
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People like this do exist, so it would be great if you found a perfect match. However, I don’t think there’s a very high chance that someone like this would open your profile and read all the way through to the comments section.
It seems more efficient to focus on getting to know the many other ordinary people out there.
Marika
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
If you really want to write it, I think you should go ahead. There may be male members who are interested in women like you. That said, I think they’re in the minority.
“I'm in trouble. Please help me” will probably work against you when it comes to getting offers—unless you’re unbelievably cute, of course. I sympathize with your situation and feel sorry for you, but you should understand that it’s a separate matter from whether male members will actually make you an offer.
“I’m a papa. My company went bankrupt, and my wife abandoned me. But I’m desperate to have H with a young woman. I can’t offer much allowance, but please help me.”
↑ If you received an offer from a papa like that, wouldn’t you turn it down? (lol)
Rather than appealing for sympathy, you’ll get more offers if you write about what the other person—the male member—would gain and what would make him happy.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I generally don’t think it’s a good idea to write about unfortunate circumstances in your profile.
The reason is that few men want to be around someone who gives off a negative aura.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
In many cases, leaving the comments section blank actually leaves a better impression.
As a man, I’d still make an offer even if there were no profile introduction, as long as I could see the basic details.
Whatever the reason, it really doesn’t matter.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
So this is about separating households after all.
As I mentioned in my earlier answer, to elaborate, I wouldn’t make an offer to someone just because she says she’s struggling financially.
There’s no need to emphasize how unfortunate your situation is. The world isn’t kind enough that simply hearing “I’m having a hard time” will make someone reach out and say, “Let me help you.”
If you wrote something like, “I’m genuinely struggling, so I’ll do anything,” I might take a momentary interest. Even then, though, the vague phrase “anything” wouldn’t give me much to go on, so I probably wouldn’t make an offer. If you explained what “anything” actually means to you, I might consider making an offer depending on the extent of it.
That said, I imagine you probably couldn’t go into too much specific detail in a comment from a woman’s perspective.
You also mentioned that you were thinking of writing, “I registered with a dating club because I want some money of my own.” But that no longer comes across as saying you’re genuinely struggling financially. It’s no different from saying, “I registered with a dating club because I want to get beauty treatments.” You’re probably better off leaving that out.
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
That would put me off. Men want to enjoy themselves. I know it sounds harsh, but I don’t think you’ll get any offers.
If you want to write it that way, go ahead and do as you please.
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