I’ve been in a loving, almost real-relationship with a man I’ve been seeing for four years (though he hasn’t given me an allowance lately).
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I’m in my 20s and haven’t gotten a boyfriend.
But recently, he’s been more possessive, and we’ve been arguing. He says he’s 40, but I found out his actual age might be 53. He’s also never invited me to his home, which has made me start wondering whether he’s ever been married or actually has a wife. He calls me his girlfriend, of course, but would it be okay to ask him directly about his age and these other things?
I’m Nana Ayase♡
If you think you can lie about your age, then you’re clearly not a Universe member.
If you find him annoying, cut ties with him already. You’re not getting any allowance from him anyway, right?
“Lovey-dovey”…? You mean going to hotels together? That’s not lovey-dovey—it just means you’re a woman he can sleep with for free. You should probably leave it alone.
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Maezawa from the president’s office here, answering as well.
> Is it okay to ask him directly about things like his age?
I think it’s fine to ask, but you already know he says he’s 40 even though he’s actually 53, right? The other things are probably just as you suspect.
So I don’t feel there’s any real benefit to asking. If you make sure you receive your allowance properly, I think those concerns will matter less.
If he says he doesn’t want to pay you an allowance, how about pressing him to marry you?
He probably wasn’t really head over heels for you—you’re likely just someone who’s convenient for him.
If you’re okay with that kind of relationship, then you should continue seeing him without asking anything. But if it bothers you, there’s probably no future for this relationship, so I think you’d be better off ending it.
And from now on, no matter how lovey-dovey things get, make sure you always receive your allowance. You’re the one who’ll get hurt.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
If you have a lot of questions, I think the only thing you can do is ask.
You may learn the truth and end up parting ways as a result, though…
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I’m Meg, a female member.
Lovey-dovey without an allowance
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Getting possessive and arguing
In other words, maybe you’ve started finding the other person annoying, don’t you think?
But what do I know.
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I’m in Seattle.
It depends on what you want. If you want to get married, you should ask about everything.
The fact that he’s been lying about his age makes him seem less than sincere. You may just be getting played by a married man. Make sure you verify everything, date someone your own age as well, and don’t let yourself be taken advantage of.
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I’m Kamihikoki, a male member who’s gotten married several times without dating anyone for even six months.
Four years? If you were serious about it…
I might have been married four times by now??
I’m not even sure whether I have a wife??
Personally, I’m good at getting engaged even when I already have a wife—but I guess you’ve got me beat??
You’re even better at it, huh?
> Is it okay to ask someone directly about their age?
Unless there’s an opportunity to check an official ID, I’d rather not be asked.
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