Question about the definition of Type A

I’m Tetsu, a male club member. The club’s purpose is to provide a setting for free-form relationships—a place where people can meet. The relationship types are the five categories the club assigns based on what it hears from the women. If someone is Type A, that means she doesn’t want an adult relationship (intimate), so as a rule, you shouldn’t propose one. That’s the basic explanation. Since these are free-form relationships, there are as many different arrangements as there are encounters. It’s not simply about how many times you meet; as the relationship deepens, someone who initially said no to an adult relationship may eventually become open to one. Complaints arise when a woman is made uncomfortable. Conversely, if something doesn’t make her uncomfortable, there’s generally no problem. If you’re worried that a woman might complain, it’s safer not to propose an adult relationship.

I’m Dai, a male member. Type A isn’t defined as meaning there’s a 0% chance of an adult relationship (intimate). I agree that women should avoid accepting invitations from men, but if two people go on several dates, they’re still human, so it wouldn’t be strange for them to grow closer and eventually develop an adult relationship. Some Type A women say that they basically prefer dinner only (no intimacy), but after going on several dates and building trust, they don’t know what might happen. That woman also seriously thought it over before choosing Type A. How exactly is that disrespectful to women who seriously considered their options and chose Type B?

Maezawa from the President’s Office here with an answer as well. That’s a good question. The staff understand because they speak directly with the women, but when you only look at their profiles, it’s hard to tell about those subtle differences, right? When it comes to Dating Type B, people often ask whether a woman is closer to A or C. Each time, I answer, “B is B—there’s no such thing as being closer to one or the other.” But actually, there are two kinds of Type A. Well, A is still A, of course… In other words, there are women who absolutely don’t want anything beyond dinner, no matter how many times they meet someone. And there are women who think that if they become close to someone, there’s always a possibility of an adult relationship (intimate)—after all, they’re a man and a woman. For women like that, choosing B could lead to the other person accusing them of misrepresenting their dating type, since they aren’t necessarily considering an adult relationship from the beginning. So they deliberately choose A. But if they become close, there may still be a possibility. That’s why some branches may write something to make this easier to understand, indicating that although she’s Type A, she leans slightly toward B. So even at branches that don’t include such a note, there are Type A women who lean toward B. That doesn’t mean you should suddenly invite them into an adult relationship, though. So, once again, A is A. Please don’t focus on whether she leans toward B or not. It sounds contradictory, but that’s what I have to say. That said, if you’re looking for someone you can spend about six months courting, this may be the kind of Type A woman you’re looking for. By the way, I searched to see where it actually says that, and there really are women with notes like that. Looking more closely, I even found women whose staff comments say: “If she genuinely hits it off with someone and he’s a good person, there may not be a zero-percent chance of developing an intimate relationship…” Come on, please read the profiles carefully.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. That’s a good question. I agree. I think it would be better to choose Type B from the start. The offer is made by the male member, after all. Perhaps you should consider making an offer while assuming it may be a common dating-type scam.

I’m Kamihikoki, a male member. Since it depends on the man involved, there’s no way to set a fixed definition. Women should be free to choose what they want. And they should be free to choose an adult relationship (intimate) too. I think overthinking it this much is actually rude and embarrassing.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I’ve looked at several female profiles with wording like that, and I think you can get a sense of what they mean from the club’s comments. If there’s no comment, why not ask the club about the intended nuance? If you feel it would be disrespectful to the many female members who seriously considered their options, made up their minds, and chose a B-or-higher type, then you simply shouldn’t make offers to women like that.

It’s Me here. I’ve been thinking about relationship types for the first time. While fully respecting the definitions of each type, I feel that trusting the other person’s vibe and my own intuition leads to more enjoyable dates. Even if she’s a D type, there’s no point inviting her if the atmosphere clearly says she wouldn’t be comfortable. On the other hand, even if she’s an A type, if she seems relaxed and gives off the impression that she’d like to spend more time together after dinner, I think it’s okay to ask—as long as I give her an easy way to decline. Even though this is through a dating club, the time we spend together is something special that only happens because we managed to coordinate our schedules. It seems like a shame to let ourselves get too restricted by the types and end up keeping things overly limited. I’m not denying the importance of relationship types at all. But if I get the feeling that she’s not good at saying no, I think it’s better not to ask. Otherwise, I’m in favor of asking in a way that won’t lead to complaints like, “I’m an A type—why did you ask me?” …Is that really such a bad way to think? (^^;;)