I have a question too about a papa who may have falsified his educational background!
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The man I’m currently seeing runs a company, but something about him seems really shady.
He has a profile, but it doesn’t mention any universities or companies he worked for. Instead, it goes on and on about how he’s “a leading expert who has achieved results in ___.”
His work seems to consist mostly of seminars, and when I search for those seminars, “suspicious” even comes up in the suggested searches lol.
He keeps emphasizing things like, “The people I work with are graduates of ___ University,” or “I’ve worked with executives at ___ (a major corporation),” really pushing the image that he’s someone who knows all kinds of impressive people.
His allowance and the places we go for dinner aren’t particularly impressive either, so I’m starting to wonder whether he’s really wealthy—or whether he even makes his money through legitimate work.
You might think it’s safe because men have to show identification when joining a club, but a man I used to see turned out to be a nouveau riche ex-member of an organized crime group, so I don’t trust that process very much.
Is it really impossible to see through a man’s true background during the interview?
It’s me.
I think lies are a necessary evil.
Whether they’re men or women, people who can’t lie aren’t suited for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
That’s because people who can’t lie run a greater risk of hurting the people who truly matter to them.
To begin with, I wonder whether falsely claiming a certain educational background at a dating club can really benefit or disadvantage anyone. Who knows, though.
Just as club names exist, if dating clubs are about enjoying a fictional world, then wouldn’t lying about your education simply be an extension of that?
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I’m Aya, a female member.
That man probably wants to make himself seem more important than he really is. Since he’s joined a dating club, perhaps he wants to live out the fantasy of being a wealthy man.
You can either accept that this is just the kind of person he is and continue seeing him, or, if it bothers you, end things.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
It’s probably impossible to describe exactly what the questioner means by someone’s background. If we draw the line at “shady,” then everyone involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) might qualify as shady, haha.
At least it was through a dating club. Even if he was a former yakuza member and a nouveau riche, the fact that he’s no longer involved is something. If it had been through an app, there would have been no screening or ID verification. Just imagine being approached by a real yakuza member and being abducted or held captive—no, that’s terrifying. No one would come to help you.
There are all kinds of people among the members. Even exchanging IDs is only the bare minimum of risk management. Please take responsibility for your own safety and protect yourself.
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As long as he treats you like a gentleman when you meet and properly gives you your allowance, shouldn’t that be enough?
He probably just doesn’t want you to know his personal information. I wouldn’t like someone who pries that much, either.
Marika
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Somehow, the questions just keep getting more arrogant and unpleasant...
Do you all really have such impressive academic backgrounds?
Have you accomplished anything worth mentioning?
If someone highly educated offered you something, would that somehow let you launder your own academic credentials?
If all you do is criticize other people, it won’t just warp your character—
it’ll distort your face, too.
Akari
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
> Is it really impossible to see a man’s true character during the interview?
Do you think the person who asked this question had their true character seen through during the interview?
If you could fully understand someone in just about an hour, it seems like there would be no one left in the world to be deceived.
I think this applies to any kind of interview, but you should assume that, basically, you can’t see through everything about another person.
> I’m starting to wonder whether he’s really wealthy.
You’ve presumably met this man more times than just during the interview, so is it really impossible to see through his true character?
To begin with, whether someone is wealthy or not isn’t all that important. What matters more is whether you enjoy spending time together and whether the allowance meets your expectations.
Unless you’re saying you don’t need an allowance if he’s wealthy.
> The man I used to see was a self-made rich man who had formerly been a member of an organized crime group.
First, please report that information to the club, so other women don’t run into trouble.
Universe also checks new members using a paid database for organized-crime affiliations and the like, so I wonder how he managed to slip through the screening v?
Ah, since you said “formerly,” does that mean he’s no longer affiliated with organized crime and therefore passed the screening?
Either way, we’d like you to report it.
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
Does the person asking the question really need her male partner to be highly educated? Since it’s just a pretend romance, I wouldn’t bother looking into his background. It’s not like you’re getting married.
And why did that man talk so freely about it? Didn’t he realize that would make it easier for him to get caught?
I don’t care about academic credentials at all. If he’s genuinely good at his job now, even a junior high school graduate would be fine with me.
There were people in the past who had to work to support their families, right? While everyone else was studying, they worked hard for their families—and if they’ve managed to succeed because of that, I think it’s incredibly admirable. I’d totally fall for someone like that ♡
Even if he doesn’t earn hundreds of millions of yen, someone making around eight million yen could probably still be a papa (a male supporter).
As long as you’re not asking him to buy you Hermès, it should be fine. I’d be happy if we could enjoy a loving relationship together—would that be a problem?
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I’m Taro, a male member.
The only check done when you join is identity verification. If any criminal activity occurs, filing a police report should lead to the club being contacted during the investigation, which would allow them to identify the person. That’s all—nothing more, nothing less. They presumably don’t check whether you have a suspicious job or whether you’re genuinely wealthy in the first place. On the other hand, members do sign a document stating that they have no ties to organized crime, so if your partner does, you should report it to the club.
As for credit-checking someone as a money-focused woman, wouldn’t it make sense to judge them first by their track record of paying the agreed amount each time? Even if they have a suspicious job, you have no complaints as long as they pay well, right? In that case, you can’t go wrong if you just focus on the money.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
By the way, do women really want men to go through such a formal, rigorous process to verify their identity before joining?
Don’t you ever think, “Why go to all that trouble just to join?” I wonder…
As a man, I don’t feel much like seriously meeting women who pay a hefty membership fee to join a matchmaking service (men can join for free)…
Oh, right. If you’re a young man, you can get introduced to reasonably attractive women for free without joining a club anyway…
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