I don’t understand what kind of woman makes a man feel relaxed when he’s with her.
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I think I’m probably quite talkative. Men seem to get tired when they’re with me, so things rarely continue for very long. In fact, the two papas I’ve been seeing for a long time are both talkative people themselves. Thankfully, I often receive compliments on my appearance. At the club, I’m currently a Platinum, formerly A-type and now B-type, and I received offers from around 20 men in three months (although I haven’t met about half of them yet), so I think I probably fall at least somewhat into the cute category. I can usually make it to a second meeting, but getting past the third is quite difficult. I assume they probably don’t feel relaxed when they’re with me.
When I’m with a man, I feel strongly that I have to entertain him even a little, and I’m not good with silence. How can I become the kind of woman a man wants to keep spending time with? Is it really okay to have moments of silence? I honestly have no idea anymore...
You’ve been seeing two fun, talkative people, so that’s a good thing, isn’t it?
Forcing yourself to stay quiet wouldn’t be fun, and it would probably feel painful. Since it sounds like you’re getting plenty of offers, you can also choose the people you feel most comfortable with.
What matters most is that you can both enjoy yourselves without forcing anything.
Marika
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
I understand. You’re doing great.
You’re making an effort to keep the conversation going, right? But the papa also has to match your energy, so sometimes I think, “You don’t have to talk quite that much.”
Silence is okay too, so try being quiet next time. If you’re worried about the silence, try holding your papa’s hand, leaning on his shoulder, or giving him a back hug.
Maybe it’s just me, but I love it when she peacefully falls asleep in my arms after an intimate moment. Watching her sleeping face is pure bliss.
There are papas like this too.
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I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer as well.
> I can usually meet them up to the second time, but it’s quite difficult to continue seeing them from the third meeting onward.
Hmm.
Could it be that, even after switching to Plan B, you’re giving the impression—or saying outright—that dinner only is possible?
Or do you mean that once you become intimate at the second meeting, there’s no third meeting?
I feel like the clue may be somewhere around here…
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
I’m quite talkative too, so I try to speak slowly. You don’t want to talk like a machine gun.
As Paper Airplane mentioned, many arrangements seem to last only until the third meeting.
And have you only been registered for about three or four months? If so, this wave may start to settle down soon.
Enjoy yourself—if you force it, your true colors will eventually show.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
For both men and women, if you choose based on compatibility, there honestly aren’t many people you’ll want to meet a third time. That’s only natural.
I don’t think you need to force yourself.
Talking more than necessary can also backfire. Especially if the conversation doesn’t flow, the other person may become even more aware that you’re not a good match.
It’s very important that your spontaneous comments click and that you’re able to share each other’s reactions.
For men who aren’t particularly talkative, pointless conversation is simply exhausting. They can also tell very quickly whether you’re compatible.
> “When I’m with a man, I feel like I have to entertain him, even a little.”
You don’t have to push yourself—you should feel free to enjoy yourself, too. As a man, I want to see a woman looking lively and genuinely happy. I want to continue seeing women who make me want to make them happy.
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