I had seven dates arranged this month, and three of them were canceled just five minutes before the date. Since the venue had its own scheduling constraints, there wasn’t enough time to call in a replacement, so I paid the cancellation fee and went home. Am I just bad at judging people? Are they all like this? How is it different from using an app? What are the advantages of joining a club? I’m wondering whether I should continue.
Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
I don’t think I’ve ever heard of a cancellation just five minutes beforehand. Do you mean the club contacted you only five minutes before the appointment?
If the woman contacted you directly, that would be a violation of the rules.
That said, it’s certainly a strange situation.
Apparently, there are LINE groups for women these days where they exchange information about men to avoid.
It’s possible that you may have been labeled as a man to avoid. Perhaps your allowance was too low, or maybe you’ve acted arrogantly toward women in the past?
Usually, men are identified by their club names or profile descriptions.
Once a man gets that reputation, women are much more likely to turn down his offers.
Also, if you’re active on apps as well, or if you changed your club name, women may be identifying you by the phone number provided just before the date.
In that case, the woman wouldn’t know your number until right before meeting you. She may have searched for your information in one of those groups before going on the date, found a match, and then panicked and canceled at the last minute.
If things have reached this point, I don’t think the club can really do much to help.
You may want to consider it a consequence of your own actions, leave the club, and not renew your membership with Universe.
Perhaps you underestimated women a little too much.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Have you actually met and gone on dates four times this month?
If you meet four people, it wouldn’t be unusual for one of them to become a good relationship.
Unless this is your first month, you should already be feeling enough of the benefits. If you aren’t, this may simply not be for you. As for the arrangements, cancellations are extremely rare.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
Universe Club, your Black member is upset.
Who’s their staff representative?
Please make sure to follow up with them individually before they end up posting anonymously here (lol).
Right after joining, I also had three consecutive last-minute cancellations for my first meetings. One reason was that I prioritized looks and didn’t realize that women who had been registered for a long time might have lower motivation. Another was that I made offers to teenage college students who had just joined. This is just my personal impression, but women whose registration dates are relatively recent and who have work experience seem more likely to keep their appointments. It depends on the person, of course, but the odds may be better.
I completely understand how infuriating last-minute cancellations are.
Still, since the female members in this activity are young, it’s probably better to expect that cancellations will happen.
P.S.
If the person who asked this is a Black member, this is something you should discuss directly with the club. Have you contacted them?
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
That’s a bit disappointing…
I’m an old man, and I’ve only actually been on three dates, but even so, I haven’t had any cancellations.
Well, I’m not handsome, and I believe I understand my position, so maybe it helped that I worked around the woman’s availability when arranging the date, time, and so on.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I’m sorry to say this, but I think you either have poor judgment or bad luck. Over the past year, I’ve made dozens of offers, and the only issues were one woman asking to reschedule the day before because she’d been in an accident, and another arriving more than an hour late because work ran over—though she did contact me before the scheduled meeting time.
If you can’t see the benefits, I think you should just quit.
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This is Ayase Nana ♡
Was the last-minute cancellation by a young girl? I believe I previously wrote that anyone who offers women who don’t understand the value of time and money should consider offering older women instead.
But you went ahead and chose based on youth and looks alone again.
If you feel that your time and money are being wasted, I think you should change the age range you’re looking for.
That said, does being older absolutely guarantee they won’t cancel at the last minute? Not necessarily—but wouldn’t it still be a little better?
Also, staff, please stop registering girls who act like, “I’m getting paid—yay!” It damages Universe’s reputation and will only lead to more people being harmed.
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I’m Dai, a male club member.
If you don’t see the benefits of using a club, why not look for women through an app instead?
I understand how frustrating it is when women repeatedly cancel on the day of the date, but that’s an issue with the individual woman—not something the club is responsible for, is it?
By the way, Universe Club also has a system called Letter Date.
With Letter Date, you can make an offer for half the usual cost, and, just like on an app, negotiate the date and time directly yourself!
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