I’m the person who posted this question, and I’m furious that a female respondent named Papuwa mocked me as “mentally unstable” despite knowing nothing about my circumstances.
To put my background simply: “I lived abroad for many years because of my parents’ work, but was abducted and held captive there, went missing, was eventually rescued and brought back to Japan, and then had to restart compulsory education several years behind schedule.”
Normally, I would already be old enough to be working, but I’m currently an undergraduate. So I thought it was necessary to share some of my background to a certain extent in order to keep my story consistent. Am I wrong?
Also, is a woman who calls someone “mentally unstable” without considering their feelings really suitable for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?
As an aside, I was hurt when she called me a woman who seems stupid, even though I attend the second-best university in Japan. I’m crying.
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer as well.
I normally don’t display posts that aren’t questions, but by the time I saw this one, it already had so many answers that it became difficult to decide.
That said, if you only want to vent, this isn’t the place to do it. If I had seen it sooner, I would have hidden it.
It isn’t a question—it’s more along the lines of “I’m angry” or “I’m hurt.”
Please post questions only here.
Personal attacks against answerers aren’t acceptable either. One of the defining features of this site is that answerers write what they genuinely think. Everyone has their own way of responding, and that’s precisely what makes this a good place with a wide variety of answers.
If you dislike that kind of response, I think you simply shouldn’t ask questions here in the first place.
If you ask somewhere people are more likely to sympathize with you, you’ll probably receive kinder answers. I believe you can choose where to ask your questions yourself.
> Even though I attend the second-best university in Japan...
Which university specifically do you mean by “the second-best university”?
If you mean the University of Tokyo, then that’s the best in Japan, so would second place be Kyoto University? Keio?
That makes people wonder, “Which university is supposedly second?” so I feel there probably aren’t many people who say they attend the second-best university.
If you mean the second university to be established in Japan, that would be Kyoto University. But in that case, someone attending Tohoku University would say:
“I attend the third university in Japan.”
Is that what you mean by “second”?
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I’m Aya, a female member.
If you go into detail about your background here, couldn’t the papa you spoke with when he made you an offer identify you—assuming it isn’t fabricated, of course? Like that person who posted that question in the Q&A box…
The online world can be frightening. You need to be somewhat shrewd and guarded, and I’m genuinely worried by how exposed you seem right now.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
Since you’re old enough to be working but are still a current university student, I assume you felt it would be better to mention your complicated circumstances in your profile.
People of all ages attend university.
I actually know someone who graduated from two universities, and there are also people who spend so much time pursuing other interests that they repeat years and end up as seventh-year students.
I sometimes think that after I retire, I’d like to go back to university and study again myself.
I don’t think it would be an issue if you simply wrote something like, “Due to personal circumstances, I’m a university student at this age…” in your profile.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
It’s amazing that your boyfriend is okay with your papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
With a generous (well-paying) papa and your boyfriend as your papa-katsu strategists, you’ve got the strongest support system possible.
You’re already an incredible person—and smart, too.
Keep following your own path in papa-katsu. I’m sure you’ll succeed.
You don’t need to ask questions here anymore. Congratulations on graduating from the Q&A box!
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You could get to know him better and talk to him about it.
After everything you’ve been through, the fact that you still worked hard and went on to university should be enough for your current papa (a male supporter).
These days, papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is mainly for enjoying a more luxurious lifestyle, so why not just be yourself and see how it goes? Even if you’re a graduate student—or simply a student at a reasonably prestigious university—it’s perfectly normal for working adults to enroll, so there’s nothing strange about it.
That said, I do understand how you feel.
Let’s act like adults…
Akari
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I’m Ayase Nana ♡
If you were a papa, wouldn’t you want to meet someone you enjoy talking to?
Papas have their own struggles too. I’m sure it was difficult for them before they became successful. So if all you do when you meet and talk is go on about your hardships, people may understandably find it annoying.
If you want to write about your struggles, go ahead—but you don’t want any offers, right?
Also, are you really attending a prestigious university? I also felt that your writing skills were a little lacking.
There are plenty of people who attend good universities but can’t perform at work and end up only being able to work at hostess clubs. Work hard at university so you don’t become one of them.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Feel free to ask your question.
Are you perhaps referring to this part?
> Since I’m still a university student even though I’m old enough to have been working full-time for quite some time, I thought I needed to provide some background information to keep my story consistent. Is that not the case?
There are students of all ages at universities, aren’t there?
I don’t think there’s any need to make your story “consistent,” and providing your background is absolutely unnecessary.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
Haha（笑）
I know exactly what you mean.
I guess there are all kinds of people among the respondents…
You’re quite impressive too.
As someone who graduated from a high school with a rather low academic ranking, I can’t help but envy you…
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Is there really such a thing as “appropriate” for a woman in papa-katsu?
Marika
I don’t think you need to be brutally honest about why you’re a few years behind schedule. If you want to write about it, that’s fine too. Everyone has lived a different kind of life. It’s probably best not to think that you’re the only one with unusual circumstances or that you’re the only tragic heroine.
That said, I do think it’s best to write a profile that feels natural and comfortable to you. But whether that will necessarily lead to offers from men is another matter. Rather than someone who’s looking for sympathy, men may be more inclined to meet a woman they enjoy talking to.
Of course, just as women are all different, men are too, so there may be some who like hearing sad stories.
Marika
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