Do the men here prefer women with a light background over women with a complicated past?
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I’m currently revising my profile over and over and can’t decide what to do.
My background is so complicated that people I’ve just met are put off when I tell them about it (although I have a pretty straightforward personality). I currently have no parents, so I’m paying for my tuition and living expenses on my own, and I’m unsure whether I should write about that honestly or make my profile sound more casual and carefree.
When I previously wrote about my background and financial struggles on a papa-katsu app, I received lots of sympathetic messages. I even found a generous papa who paid my driving school fees in full, as well as a boyfriend around my age who occasionally gives me spending money.
However, even when I write about those things on this site, I receive almost no offers...
https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/7764
As fun, who answered the question above, says, are there many men here who want a light relationship without being depended on? Should I avoid emphasizing things like, “I’ve had a really hard time... and I’m still struggling!”?
Recently, I was approved for a grant-based scholarship, I have one generous papa as mentioned above, and I’ve found an understanding boyfriend, so I feel more at ease mentally. The reason I joined this site was simply because I thought it would be nice to have a little extra money not only for tuition and living expenses, but also for things like beauty treatments and brand-name items. However, I’m not the kind of person who can lie, so I can’t force myself to hide my unusual background or pretend to be carefree... (I previously made my profile sound casual on a papa-katsu app, but my background is so unusual that I couldn’t answer questions like what I did in high school, and I couldn’t have a normal conversation at all.)
Would making my profile sound more casual, even if it meant lying, make me seem a little more carefree and increase the number of offers?
When I asked my boyfriend for advice, he said, “If I were a club member, I’d choose a girl who shared a sob story and emphasized that she was struggling,” so I made my profile fairly heavy. But lately I’ve started wondering whether that might be one of the reasons I’m not getting any offers...
I don’t really get many chances to see other women’s profiles, so I’d appreciate any advice.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well.
> Would making my profile sound more casual, even if it meant lying a little, make me seem more approachable and increase the number of offers?
You say you’re the type of person who can’t lie, so isn’t it contradictory to ask whether you should lie?
If you’re not the type to lie, I think it would be better not to.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I understand that you have a difficult past, no family, and a story that tugs at the heartstrings.
But then you turned to a papa-katsu app because you were struggling financially, found a generous papa (well-paying supporter), and even got a boyfriend. Isn’t that enough?
You should stop being so greedy.
There are a lot of things I just can’t understand—for example, you saying that your boyfriend told you to write something like that so you could receive an offer from Universe.
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I’m Fuu, a columnist.
Everyone has different preferences. It probably doesn’t depend on whether you meet through an app or a dating club—it comes down to the individual man.
To be clear, I’m only saying that if a profile is filled with heavy details, I personally wouldn’t make an offer because that’s not my preference. For example, in a previous question [https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/7756], there seemed to be generous men who preferred modest women struggling financially and wanted to support them in their daily lives. So why not try posting a tearjerker profile and see if an offer comes from a generous papa (a male supporter)?
Also, to avoid any misunderstanding: the questioner uses “easy women” as the opposite of women with difficult backgrounds, but my favorites aren’t easy by any means. They’re women who work hard of their own accord and have built a stable foundation for their lives. They do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) to enjoy some extra benefits on top of that. They work hard, so they’re certainly not “easy.”
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
I don’t think whether you receive offers depends solely on your comments or profile itself. What do you think?
I feel that posting selfies and similar photos might work better.
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I’m Nana Ayase♡
You seem to think you’re the only one having a hard time, don’t you?
How many women do you think are in this dating club? The papas here probably know all about situations like this too.
If your profile sounds too heavy, it could put people off. If you wrote everything, the papas might think, “It feels like a Kokin-Bakemono clinging to me—better stay away.”
Also, does your boyfriend know you’re in a dating club? You’ll probably end up giving him the money you receive from your papas.
Normally, wouldn’t a guy hate the idea of his girlfriend having an adult relationship with another man? Isn’t something wrong here? Your relationship is seriously messed up.
I can’t say it outright, but maybe you should break up with your boyfriend. If you were my daughter and your boyfriend acted like that, I’d make you break up with him immediately.
Enough is enough—you’re going to get a double slap.
Quit the app too, or you’ll end up getting seriously hurt.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
That really depends on the individual. There’s no way all men at a dating club would have the same preferences.
If you’re the type of person who can’t lie, I think it’s better not to try to awkwardly sugarcoat the comments from women on your profile.
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