I want to end things with my stingy papa (a male supporter).

I’m Tetsu, a male member. I don’t think you have anything to lose by ending things on good terms. If you throw out a parting insult, say goodbye without any explanation, or do something that makes the other person think, “Why?” or “Are you kidding me?” it could lead to trouble. Dealing with problems is a hassle, and you may even end up regretting the past. I think all you need to do is hold back your true feelings for a moment and simply say, “Thank you for spending time with me up until now.”

Maezawa from the President’s Office here as well. There’s nothing to gain from throwing out a parting shot. I think it’s best to say nothing and simply fade out. Most men want to be told the proper reason, but talking it through won’t solve anything. If a man is flexible enough to change just because you point something out, he would probably notice the problem and take steps to address it before your dissatisfaction built up in the first place. Take the allowance, for example. You say it’s extremely low, but that man probably offers the same low allowance to other women as well. Most men have a set amount they’re generally willing to pay. So when a man says, “I suddenly can’t get in touch with this woman anymore. I wonder why?” and you suggest, “Could it be because the allowance is too low?” he’ll probably respond with something like: “What are you talking about? All the women I’ve seen before, including this one, have received the same amount. If it were too low, she would have turned me down from the start. Besides, she seemed happy when we met.” Even people whose arrangements always end after about the third meeting tend to think this way. Also, once the allowance has been decided at the beginning, I think there are far fewer men who will agree to raise it later, even if you negotiate. With that in mind, it seems very unlikely that discussing the allowance will actually lead to an increase. So I think it’s best to simply fade out. Most men want to know the reason or receive a final goodbye, and I can understand that feeling. Even so, I still think fading out is the better option. Perhaps it’s something like this: Only men who have treated you well deserve to receive a final message. Those who don’t should reflect on whether they made the woman put up with too much. When a woman has to part ways with a good man, I think she’ll make sure to contact him properly.

This is Nana Ayase ♡ Don’t leave a parting shot—no, no, no. If you’re messaging on LINE, it might be better to gradually take longer to reply until they eventually realize they’re not getting a response anymore… Then maybe try negotiating the allowance again? If you make it seem like they’re the one ending things, they may be less likely to resent you.

I’m Fuu, a column writer. Just like Tetsu, I think it would be best for you to politely thank him, explain why you can’t continue, and end things properly. If he knows your personal information, you don’t want him to start stalking you, suddenly turn hostile, or even take legal action against you. That would be safest for you.

I think it’s best to say goodbye. He’s the kind of man who makes it understandable if you feel he’s taking you lightly. You don’t have to put up with that much or sell yourself short. Someone like that is no different from the type of guy who tries to satisfy his sexual desires with pocket-change money. No matter where or how you meet someone, I think it’s a deal-breaker if they forget to show respect for the other person. Akari

I’m Flagmaker, a column writer. It may not be talked about much here, but I think most women are putting up with something or other. You’re not the only one having a hard time. It’s okay. Once you’ve reached your limit, it’s safer to quietly fade out without saying anything—it avoids unnecessary trouble.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I understand that it can be hard to ask for a higher allowance. But compared with someone who suddenly throws out a parting shot, I think a person who brings up the issue, leaves room for discussion, and is willing to talk things through is far more mature and humane. Let’s be the kind of people who can talk things out.

I’m in Seattle. I think it’s fine to simply say, “The allowance is too low, so I’m going to pass.”