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Jul 14, 2021 13:02
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I’m Aya, a female member.
Um, guys my age also stroke me and compliment me, you know?
Maybe doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) as a teenager has warped your sense of things. Poor thing. I almost feel like giving you an allowance myself.
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Age: 50s
👨 Male
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
Here we go again with the provocative “Older men are gross—what is that supposed to be?” question. Did venting all your everyday frustrations help you feel better? (lol)
Compared with being handled roughly and painfully, I think your papas sound like gentlemen for stroking you so gently.
My guess is that you’re used to being touched roughly by your younger boyfriends and having them get straight to it.
If you really hate being stroked, why not try saying things like, “Touch my clitoris,” “Go down on me already,” or “I’m already wet, so put it in”?
If you can’t appreciate that the stroking is meant as gentle consideration—or if you simply find it disgusting—then this probably isn’t for you. Rather than forcing yourself, you could quit papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and sleep with younger guys you don’t find gross. That way, you probably won’t have to feel so uncomfortable.
Other
If you’re the kind of person who wonders, “Why will older men stroke me, but younger guys won’t touch my body?” you’d probably both have more fun dating older men.
It’s sad for both you and your papa (a male supporter) to endure feeling uncomfortable just to receive an allowance.
Marika
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the President’s Office here—I’ll answer as well.
Mac’s analogy is easy to understand.
People who like cats and dogs often have a strong tendency to pet them.
I’ve never seen anyone watch that and say, “Honestly, that’s really disgusting,” so I think it’s something most people can accept.
Isn’t it the same between people?
When you like someone, you naturally want to touch them.
I think that’s perfectly fine.
If you don’t like it, you should simply say so. However, if that’s how you feel, then this probably isn’t for you in the first place, so I think you should reconsider your activities.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I’m not the type to grope or caress someone all over, so it seems not every older man necessarily wants to touch a young woman’s body that way.