You can’t really live on ¥200,000 a month, can you? I’m on an exclusive monthly arrangement for ¥200,000, but whenever I try to get a part-time job, he asks, “Why do you need that much money?”
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My essential monthly expenses—rent, utilities, phone bill, transportation, hair appointments, and so on—come to ¥80,000–¥90,000.
Food costs ¥70,000–¥90,000. I don’t eat out; I cook everything myself. I can’t control my appetite because of stress, and I’m already choosing the cheapest options I can.
Medical expenses are ¥10,000–¥20,000.
Cosmetics, daily necessities, and clothes cost ¥30,000–¥150,000.
There are also various other expenses, such as university textbooks, so I spend roughly ¥210,000–¥300,000 a month. Besides the support from this papa (a male supporter), I earn an additional ¥400,000–¥500,000 a month, so I’m managing perfectly well while still saving money. However, my papa thinks my monthly income is only his ¥200,000 support plus ¥20,000–¥50,000 from a part-time job.
Honestly, I can’t get by on a monthly income of ¥220,000–¥250,000. It irritates me when my papa acts as if he’s covering all my living expenses. Is ¥200,000 really enough to live comfortably and luxuriously?
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I completely understand your financial situation. Twenty万円 a month isn’t nearly enough for me either（笑）
In my case, I earn a three-digit amount every month (and it’s only three digits, sadly), but my expenses are also three digits. Subtract one three-digit figure from another, and you’re left with zero digits.
At this rate, I can’t afford any luxuries at all.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
From the way you phrased your question, it sounds like what really irritates you is that your papa is trying to have you all to himself for “just” ¥200,000. Why not tell him directly that that’s what bothers you, rather than focusing on not being able to live luxuriously? He might cut you off, though.
You can’t live lavishly on ¥200,000, but you can live modestly. I manage perfectly well on about that much. I go to the cosmetic dermatologist and the hair salon every month, and even when I buy prestige cosmetics, I can keep my spending within that amount.
Also, your food budget of ¥70,000–¥90,000 a month is abnormally high. I knew someone with an eating disorder who spent about that much, but that’s a level of food expenses that interferes with daily life. Before worrying about luxury, it seems like you should make an effort to control your appetite.
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I’m Basil, a male member.
For a college student, this is definitely a luxury.
Once they enter the workforce, they’ll be lucky to take home ¥200,000 a month. I just hope this doesn’t make a respectable job seem pointless and lead them into becoming a professional mistress or entering the adult entertainment industry.
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I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer as well.
> Is 200,000 yen a month really enough to live luxuriously?
Hmm, if “luxuriously” is the standard, then 200,000 yen a month is nowhere near enough. Some people probably couldn’t live luxuriously even on 10 million yen a month.
That said, I think quite a few people live on 200,000 yen a month. The starting salary for a university graduate is probably around 220,000 yen a month, and after deductions, the take-home pay would be under 200,000 yen.
Life would be difficult, but I think it’s still enough to live a normal life.
I don’t know how much public assistance pays, but for someone living alone, I feel that the amount needed for “the minimum standard of living for a healthy and cultured life” is probably around 140,000 yen.
So 200,000 yen seems like it gives you just a little breathing room above the bare minimum.
To get back to the point: if living a normal life were enough, you wouldn’t do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) in the first place. You do it because you want to live luxuriously.
With that in mind, I’d say the questioner is half right. The reason it’s only half right is that both luxury and basic living are being discussed. For simply getting by, 200,000 yen is enough. For living luxuriously, it isn’t.
That’s probably the reality.
I think papas generally feel that they’re providing enough money for you to simply live. So there’s no point complaining or lamenting that your opinions differ on that.
> When I try to get a part-time job, he asks why I need so much money.
You could say, “I still need more money to live life on my own terms. Hehe.” Try saying it with a slightly superior attitude.
Your standards are different, so I doubt talking it through will accomplish much.
I don’t think you need to explain every detail. Just keep repeating, “I need it,” every time he asks.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
I understand how you feel.
That said, it’s also true that some girls are genuinely very happy with 200,000 yen.
When you stop feeling grateful, I think it probably means the end of the relationship is near.
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I’m in Seattle.
I can’t say whether it’s a lot or a little, but the food expenses are definitely abnormal.
Could they be eating and then vomiting? I’m worried about whether they’re seeing a specialist.
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Your food expenses seem unusually high for someone living alone.
And if you wore clothes appropriate to your means, wouldn’t you have plenty left over?
If you have another 400,000–500,000 yen coming in, isn’t that enough?
If receiving 200,000 yen makes you irritated over something like that, why not end things?
I’m sure you’ll find a new papa—you sound like a very attractive person.
Akari
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think you could live on ¥200,000 if you keep things modest, aside from the cost of textbooks. That man probably doesn’t want his partner to live extravagantly.
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