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When I asked the man I was supposed to go on a date with tonight whether it would be okay to wear skinny pants and rain boots because of the heavy rain, he said, “If you’re not willing to make an effort, you don’t have to come. You’re the one getting paid, so shouldn’t you at least wear what the other person wants?” I lost all motivation, so I decided not to go.
All of the men I’m seeing are the type who don’t want to spend a penny more than necessary, so everything is always kept to the bare minimum. Even on rainy days, they say things like, “It’s not that far, so let’s just walk,” or, “I’m already wet, so it makes no difference.” I guess I’m probably just the bare minimum to them, too.
I’m starting to feel really sad, so I’m going to bed early tonight.
I’m columnist Fuu.
Male members, Fuu, and female members all need to get used to how things work without losing sight of gratitude and consideration for one another.
The amount of an allowance isn’t something that’s easy to earn through ordinary work, is it? Instead of complaining that it’s raining or that their papa won’t put them in a taxi, female members could first feel grateful for receiving an allowance. If they have that sense of gratitude, they probably won’t get so upset about a little rain. In the long run, women like that are likely to be supported and valued by male members.
On the other hand, male members should also treat women with a little more care and consideration. Rather than making it obvious that “I’m paying, so…,” they should think, “On rainy days, at least let her take a taxi!” In my case, this is also a reminder driven by the competitive feeling that, given my finances and appearance, if I don’t make an effort, my favorites will drop me and I’ll lose out to other papas（笑）
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I’m Kamihikoki, a male member.
Since we’re the ones expected to pay, shouldn’t we at least show the kind of consideration the woman wants?
I truly feel that way. I wish men would understand their position.
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Did you tell him at the end, “I’m the one turning you down”?
It’s not like you weren’t willing to do it. You only couldn’t go because he told you to walk through the pouring rain.
It’s a good thing it came to an end.
Marika
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I’m Ayase Nana ♡
Oh no, I’m sorry you had such an unpleasant experience. Hopefully things go better next time.
And you didn’t go on today’s date? Did you perhaps cancel at the last minute? Did you let him know you weren’t going?
No matter how awful your papa (a male supporter) is, you need to tell him as soon as possible, “I’m sorry, but I won’t be able to make it.”
Also, I’m sorry, but I wouldn’t want someone to show up in skinny pants and rain boots either. It’s a date, after all. Do you really think you could go to dinner dressed like that?
Try looking at it the other way: what would you do if the person accompanying you showed up in a stretched-out T-shirt, worn-out shorts, and flip-flops? They wouldn’t even be allowed into the restaurant, right?
From now on, please think about how you would feel if you were in the other person’s position before you act.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here—I’ll answer as well.
I see. I didn’t realize he was that terrible.
I thought he was seeing you because he genuinely liked you, but I guess I was wrong.
Still, is he really the kind of man who would date just anyone?
There are better men out there, so I hope you find someone who will truly care about you.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
That’s a shame...
I wonder what she disliked about the skinny pants and rain boots. (lol)
I’d just take it as a blessing that you avoided getting dragged into a pointless battle with someone like that.
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