I don’t have much experience, and I’m probably pretty bad at sex.

Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here as well. I agree with Marika’s opinion. I think the best approach is to ask the woman as you go. You could offer to take women in their 30s or 40s on dates. By communicating with them along the way, you’ll gradually learn what is and isn’t acceptable.

I’m Meg, a female member. My ex-boyfriend, who was 18 years younger than me, was a virgin. In bed, he would always carefully ask me things like, “How should I move?” or “How should I use my tongue to make you feel good?” The most important thing is not to make intimacy all about yourself.

I’m Shingo Lee, a column writer. Your question really shows what a considerate person you are. I’d be happy to help. I’ll answer separately with “things to avoid” and “tips for improving.” 【Things to Avoid】 ① Don’t ask, “Does it feel good?” → When asking how your partner feels, “Does it hurt?” is the better question. “Does it feel good?” can create psychological pressure for women. ※There are also techniques involving repeated use of “Does it feel good?” to put someone into a hypnotic state, but that’s too advanced for beginners. ② Don’t ask, “Are you close?” or “You’re not going to finish yet?” → These also create psychological pressure. Since climax isn’t a woman’s only goal, it’s probably better not to say these things. ③ Turn off the lights the first time → Men tend to want to keep the lights on, but try turning them off. ④ Don’t focus too much on friction → When using your fingers or during penetration, movements that place too much emphasis on friction or thrusting aren’t ideal. With your fingers, focus on pressure; with your penis, focus on vibration. 【Tips for Improving】 ⑤ Ask your partner what she wants while taking the lead Say, “Tell me what you want me to do,” and draw out her desires from a slightly dominant position. In my experience, many women are naturally submissive or prefer to be guided. ⑥ Change your thrusting technique (missionary) During missionary, move so that the bone above your penis rubs up and down against your partner’s clitoris. In fact, women can feel good simply from clitoral pressure without thrusting. It’s even possible to make her climax using just this movement, without penetration. ⑦ Change your thrusting technique (from behind) When having sex from behind, use short, quick thrusts. Larger movements may feel good for men, but they can create too much friction for women. Try keeping your hips pressed closely against her buttocks so that your penis doesn’t slip out, and thrust while maintaining that contact. Using only small movements that alter the shape of the vagina can create a steady rhythm without interrupting her pleasure, which may make her think you’re especially skilled. There are many techniques, but I’ve selected these seven because they seem to have an immediate and particularly strong effect. To build your confidence, why not practice at an adult entertainment venue? You obviously can’t practice penetration, but you can practice the other techniques fairly inexpensively. You may think, “But she’s a professional, so maybe she’s only pretending.” On the other hand, professionals will also tell you when something is unreasonable or uncomfortable, so I think that’s perfectly fine when you’re starting out. You can also practice technique ⑥ without penetration, simply by rubbing together, so please consider it. I hope you gain confidence and enjoy a fulfilling sex life.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. I’m with Kamihikōki on this one! I feel the same way.

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. I think being genuine is more welcome than mistakenly assuming you’re good at it. If you haven’t had much experience so far, you probably haven’t had a particularly strong interest in it. So it might be a good idea to think about what you’re really looking for and what would make you happy. More important than being “good at sex” is being able to express your feelings to your partner and sense how they feel. Can you both naturally have a good time together? If you show plenty of consideration and thoughtfulness, I think you can avoid almost anything that might be a no-go in bed. Also, women generally dislike being treated without consideration more than they care whether someone is good at sex. I think it’s important to build a relationship where she feels comfortable saying what’s on her mind right away.

I’m Fuu, a column writer. Like the person asking this question, I also lacked experience at first. For the details of how that came about, please see my column: https://universe-club.jp/column/fuu16 Episode 16: “I Was Able to Satisfy Her” These days, there are plenty of videos on YouTube about sexual techniques, so why not take a look? Adult videos for men are made to arouse men. To help a woman enjoy herself, you need to understand that what excites her and what feels good for her may be different from what works for men. It’s important not to do things she dislikes and to be gentler and more attentive than men tend to think is necessary. Keep everything clean, from your hair and fingernails to your shoes. The mood is also important. Think of the foreplay as starting from the moment you meet—even during the meal. I’ve put all of this together in my column, so I hope you’ll find it helpful.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. The common mistake is trying too hard to make her finish. Instead of worrying about making her feel good, I think you should set your ego aside and become the “rod” she wants—or rather, a “human vibrator.” Just become a tool. Actually, there’s nothing wrong with relying on toys from the start. I tried a Womanizer the other day, and it proved to be several times more valuable than I could ever be.

Why not have an attractive woman in her 30s or 40s who seems experienced show you the ropes? Generally speaking, I’d say the key is to watch your partner’s reactions and not do anything they seem uncomfortable with. Marika