I’m really scared of a papa (a male supporter) who is demanding to see my ID.
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He’s pressuring me to show my ID and tell him my full name and address.
I’m absolutely terrified.
How should I refuse? And what do you think of someone like this?
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this too.
> How should I turn him down?
Just be firm and say, “I don’t want to tell you.”
If he still insists, it’s better to end things with him. The risk is simply too high.
Plenty of people are in this kind of relationship without sharing that information.
You might consider telling him once you know you can trust him, but even then, some men may become stalkers when you try to end things. So generally, it’s wiser not to tell him.
> What do you think of someone like this?
I can understand the man’s feelings to some extent, but continuing to ask when the other person is clearly afraid is completely unacceptable.
He’s probably someone who has a serious misunderstanding about this kind of relationship.
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Ayase Nana ♡
Never, ever tell him, okay? (sweat)
Even if he says he’ll show you his, don’t do it.
I’ve been stalked before, and I was even held captive.
He came to my workplace. I hadn’t told him where I’d be getting off, but he followed me, figured out my stop, and then followed me from there. He said, “If I follow you, I’ll find out where you live.”
It was terrifying when he threatened to tell my family, too.
I cried so much (tears), and apparently that made him happy.
Tell him firmly and forcefully to back off.
There are plenty of papas out there, so please be careful.
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Would the other person offer their own terms as well? I’d be even more uncomfortable if they were the kind of person who didn’t care if they got found out.
I once had someone act almost like a stalker, so I’m genuinely afraid of being identified.
As for how to turn them down, just tell them directly, “I can’t do that” or “I’m not comfortable with it,” and leave. Then give the club your feedback.
That’s all.
Marika
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I’m Aya, a female member.
That sounds terrifying. Try telling that papa, “Show me yours too—let’s exchange.” If he won’t show you, it’s not fair, so ignore him and move on to the next one.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
I’m sorry. Not all papas are like that, so please forgive us.
Say no on the spot, leave, and give the club feedback to protect yourself.
I hope you meet a normal papa with your next offer.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I’m sorry, but I think it’s best to keep things within the club’s framework.
I recommend reporting this to the club and not forcing the relationship. Dating should be enjoyable and mutually beneficial for both parties.
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I’m in Seattle.
If someone asks me to show ID, I just say, “Sorry, that makes me uncomfortable,” then block them and leave feedback with Universe Club.
Men should know that Universe Club already verifies the women’s identities, so there’s no need to worry about being set up or extorted. Some people are just strange.
As for real names, you’ll naturally learn them once you’ve built trust over a few years—through something like seeing their passport, for example.
I’ve even gone to a transgender show and visited his family home with him and his younger sister.
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