I've met many people through papa-katsu, but lately I'm starting to feel exhausted.
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There was a papa (a male supporter) who pressured me to show and photocopy my ID,
a papa who had absolutely no intention of using a condom,
a papa who secretly filmed us during an intimate encounter,
and one who, although it wasn't intentional, injured an important part of my body during the encounter, leaving a scar that I couldn't bring myself to mention.
What do you think of people like this? I'd appreciate opinions from both women and men. I feel like I'm becoming mentally unwell because of all this.
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Not everyone is like that, so you may have just happened to run into a strange man.
That said, if you’re tired of it, I think you should stop participating for now.
You can always register again if you feel like giving it another try.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
That’s awful—you’ve had incredibly bad luck. It sounds like you’ve somehow managed to encounter every terrible papa (male supporter) people complain about on this Q&A site.
Not every papa is like that, though…
Are you making sure to give feedback after each meeting?
Your luck has been so bad that if it’s affecting your health, I think you’d be better off quitting papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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I’m Aya, a female member.
What are you doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for? If you’re really struggling and desperately need the money, you’ll probably be able to save more by continuing while taking proper precautions against hidden cameras and standing up for yourself. But if you don’t need the money badly enough to go that far, quit right now. Nothing good comes from letting it affect your mental health.
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You happened to run into a rather difficult papa (a male supporter). If they’re all like that, maybe you’re showing a little vulnerability… But don’t worry—there are plenty of decent ones out there.
When you meet a papa, try to present yourself as a confident woman who knows her boundaries. If they see you as timid and willing to do whatever they say, they may take advantage of you.
If he doesn’t prepare condoms before getting into bed, it might be a good idea to bring your own.
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My name is Shingo Lee (Shingori), and I’m a male member.
To be honest, I do feel that some of this may be the result of your own choices, but you’ve clearly been through a lot, and I feel very sorry for you. I’m extremely concerned to hear that you’re currently struggling mentally. After being exposed to so many unpleasant sides of people, it’s completely understandable that it would take a toll on you. It must have been incredibly difficult.
If this continues, please don’t push yourself too hard—I recommend seeking help from a mental health clinic.
Not everyone who uses a smartphone is a bad person, but most bad people do use smartphones. In the same way, not everyone involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is a bad person; I think you simply happened to encounter one of the bad people mixed in among them.
That said, papa-katsu is just a tool. This “tool” comes with leverage, but without any guarantee of safety between individuals, so you have to deal with those kinds of problems yourself.
I think you should either change how you handle these situations or reconsider the tool you’re using.
I sincerely hope you’ll be able to live peacefully and stay mentally well from here on.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think that’s terrible. Secretly filming someone is especially awful because it’s done without their consent.
I believe it’s important to firmly refuse when someone asks you to do something you’re not comfortable with. If you can’t stand up for your own wishes, papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) probably isn’t for you.
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I think you’re feeling exhausted because you’re not particularly resilient emotionally, yet you’ve been seeing too many people at the same time.
You’d probably feel better and have more peace of mind if you ended things with anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable and limited yourself to just one or two people you genuinely feel good about.
As for the man described in the question, there’s really nothing to think about—he’s completely out of the question. I wouldn’t get involved with someone like that in the first place.
I’d rather put up with being poor than date someone like him.
Marika
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