I’d appreciate everyone’s advice. I’m a female member in my 20s.
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I usually go to a hotel with a gentleman, take a shower, and then get into bed together. But sometimes I’d like to initiate things myself—or rather, take the lead as the woman when we get into bed.
However, I don’t know how to do it without putting him off, so I always end up not trying. 😅
Does anyone have any good suggestions!?
I’m columnist Fuu.
You’re going to make me fall for you~
Those feelings are wonderful! I’m jealous. I’d love to be treated that way too—I want the woman to make the first move. Guys hardly ever pull away when a woman takes the lead, so please feel free to go for it.
① If you’re okay with skipping the shower, walk into the room and hug him right away. Like Kazu suggested, giving him oral would drive a guy crazy. Or, like Paper Airplane, you could take the lead in bed while keeping your clothes on.
② If you want to shower, get into the shower while he’s in there, shower together, and take the initiative.
③ Get into bed as usual, but before he makes a move, tell him, “I want to take the lead today,” and actively make the first move.
Ahh, that sounds amazing. I want someone to do that to me too.
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I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this too.
Before taking a shower, try saying something like:
“Today, I’d like to take the lead. Is that okay?”
He’ll probably wonder what you mean and agree.
If he says no, I think you should try it with another man.
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Meet at a time when you can both shower beforehand and come straight over, then go to the hotel before dinner.
Once you’re in the room, if you make your way to the bed while kissing or hugging, things will usually progress naturally from there. Don’t overthink it!
Marika
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
When the topic of taking a shower comes up, don’t immediately head toward the changing room or ask, “Who’s going first?”
From there, there are two possible patterns:
① Start taking off your clothes—or begin to—and the man will come over to embrace you. While helping remove his clothes, embrace him and naturally tumble onto the bed.
Or:
② Hug the man first, then help each other undress. After that, proceed as in ①.
Another pattern that has left a particularly strong impression on me is this: once you get to the hotel, stay dressed and cuddle naturally on the bed for a while. You could start by watching TV or a movie. Before long, with the woman taking the lead, have her remove the man’s clothes, continue caressing him, move into the woman-on-top position, and bring him to climax.
Those are the patterns that have stayed with me most.
If you can drink, getting into a good mood, staying dressed, and naturally moving onto the bed together as things heat up can create a very natural atmosphere. I think it feels wonderful.
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I’m Chikuwa, a male member. Once you get into the hotel room, isn’t it enough to just start kissing and caressing her right away, as if you can’t wait?
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I’m Takei from the staff.
How about placing the man’s favorite food along the path leading to the bed, then having you lie naked on the bed with that food placed over your intimate area?
You could tell him that, once you give him the signal, he should follow the trail, eating the food along the way.
Inspired by Pixar’s *Monsters, Inc.*
(I think snacks would be best, and for hygiene, it would be a good idea to put something underneath them or use individually wrapped items.)
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I’m Shingo Lee (Shingori), a male member.
It depends on the relationship between the two of you, but here are a few relatively easy approaches you could try.
(1) Cosplay
If it’s the kind of situation where you have to take a shower, why not try role-playing in a nurse or maid costume?
- A strong-willed maid and a master who can’t stand up to her
- A female student who has compromising information on her teacher
Coming up with character settings like these can help.
You could take the lead by saying things like, “Master, if you don’t do as I say like usual, there won’t be any service for you today,” or, “Teacher, if you don’t listen to me, this could become a police matter, you know? You can do as I say, right?”
(I’m embarrassed just typing this out, haha.)
(2) Just say it directly
This is similar to (1), but before taking a shower, promise him, “I’ll be the one in charge today, so you have to do exactly as I say.”
Then say, “Okay, I’m watching, so go take a shower by yourself,” and have him shower alone. Even while he’s in the shower, give him a hard time and make him do as you say.
For example: “You haven’t washed your penis properly yet, so wash it more thoroughly.”
That’s one way to take the lead.
(3) Try playing the role of a sexually assertive woman
This is almost the same as (2), but you control the situation by starting the role-play before entering the hotel.
During dinner, casually touch his crotch to get him in the mood, then say, “I’ll go to the hotel with you today if you do what I say. If you don’t, I’m going home.”
After that, proceed the same way as in (2).
I hope you’re able to take the lead in a way that satisfies you.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I’m not sure whether this would appeal to older guys, but there may be some hints in the Shima Kosaku manga series.
The lines I could remember were:
“Wouldn’t you like to finish the rest of the Jack Daniel’s somewhere a little quieter?” (Section Manager Shima Kosaku, Vol. 1)
“So, shall we have a celebration fuck?” (Executive Shima Kosaku, Vol. 1)
I also remember a scene where someone orders “One key, please” at a hotel restaurant, but I couldn’t find it.
Personally, if the woman were the one leading things toward bed, I think it would be fun if she casually unzipped my fly and went down on me.
Update:
I found it.
“Shall we do that line from Claude Lelouch’s A Man and a Woman?” “And one room, please.”
I think this was also from Section Manager Shima Kosaku, but I couldn’t determine which volume. Besides, it wasn’t a scene where the woman was the one making the move.
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