It was quite a while ago, but I still can’t forget how unpleasant it was. A few years ago, I became intimate with a foreign man. I didn’t handle or phrase things very well either, but he said that because he was circumcised, the condom became loose, and asked for a higher allowance in exchange for going without one.
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When I said, “Even if I don’t climax, I’ll still get my allowance. I’ll contact the club,” he started thrusting desperately, panting, and I still remember the sight.
I also regret quoting a low allowance because he was staying at a budget hotel after flying with an LCC. He even said, “I’ll take responsibility. I want you to stay with me until morning.” Maybe I should have pushed him away more firmly. I also hated that he didn’t shower. When I was leaving, he asked me for a kiss.
I’m sorry this turned into a rant. How can I forget about it?
I’m BB7, a male member.
The more you want to forget something, the more you remember it—and the worse it makes you feel.
Then you get depressed again, wondering why you can’t forget it.
But unless you develop dementia, it won’t disappear from your memory, so try to let it go.
Once you accept that, it won’t bother you even when you remember it. If you simply ignore it, it will naturally pass.
There’s no point in digging deeper.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well.
I’m not really sure how circumcision would cause the condom to become loose and floppy, though.
I feel like it might help to gain more experience with good men.
Alternatively, maybe try autosuggestion—convincing yourself to rewrite your memories of the past.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
If you’re going to remember something anyway, don’t focus on what someone did to hurt you. Remember how strong you were for calmly enduring it.
Sure, you met a piece of shit who got a few points on you, but you stayed composed and ultimately collected your allowance—that means you won. Next time, you simply won’t make an arrangement like that, and if you run into someone like him again, you’ll shut him down completely. That’s all you need to tell yourself.
It’s important to picture yourself as strong and victorious. You can rewrite or reinterpret the past however you want. If that’s how you choose to see it, nobody can complain.
The person who gets the future they want is the winner. Change your memories of the past however you like. Letting yourself be trapped by them is the height of foolishness.
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I’m Meg, a female member.
Wow… I’m sorry you had such an unpleasant experience…
But if you’ve had bad sex, it can also help you figure out what your ideal sex is like, so I guess it can be a learning experience in its own way.
That said, every moment you spend thinking about someone like that is time you’re giving up to him.
What a waste!
Think about something fun instead—or something that made you happy.
Or think about the wonderful men you might meet in the future.
A life full of excitement is better, right?♪
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I’m Nana Ayase, a female member.
Forget about it already. Have a generous papa (a male supporter) make you an offer and overwrite those memories.
Compared with the vastness of the universe… though maybe that’s not a fair comparison?
It’s not like your clothes were torn off and you were raped, right?
Try accepting invitations from different people—there are all kinds of ways to do things, so look forward to the next one. Actually, why are you doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) if you hate it? Isn’t that contradictory?
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