Is it taboo to say, “It’s small,” when a guy is small down there?
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Isn’t it actually unkind to hold back what you’re thinking and avoid saying it just to be considerate?
I feel it might be kinder to acknowledge that something small is small.
I’m Taro, a male member.
Actually, it’s the opposite. Sometimes kindness means not telling someone inconvenient truths.
There must be plenty of things you wouldn’t want to hear either, right?
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I’m columnist Fuu.
If you want to maintain a good relationship with someone, being considerate means choosing not to say certain things out loud, even if you’re thinking them.
To reverse the genders, for example (lol):
“Is it taboo to say, ‘Your hole is really loose’?
Isn’t it actually unkind not to say what you’re thinking and spare their feelings?
I thought it might be kinder to tell them it’s loose and acknowledge it.”
How would the person asking this question feel if someone said that to them?
Depending on how the other person takes it, using words to hurt them can amount to a violation of their human rights—a form of moral harassment.
What is moral harassment?
It refers to psychological harassment or nuisance behavior that subtly hurts someone through invisible forms of violence, such as words or attitudes that don’t involve direct physical violence—unfair remarks related to their age, background, physical features, hobbies, preferences, nationality, and so on. It constitutes a violation of human rights.
Verbal attacks aimed at someone’s physical features can really hurt.
P.S. Harassment ultimately depends on how the other person perceives it. If you’re talking about a papa (a male supporter), you’re extremely close, and the atmosphere is clearly one where it would be taken as a joke, then it wouldn’t necessarily be harassment. But judging from the wording, that doesn’t seem to be the case…
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You can figure out the answer by thinking about how you’d respond if a girl said, “I’m not cute at all~” and you replied, “Yeah, you’re right~.”
But if someone who’s *really* tiny asked, “…Do you think mine is small…?” what are you supposed to say?
Maybe go all out with, “Nooo, not at all~”
That might be a bit much…
Marika
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
> I thought it might be kinder to acknowledge that something small is small by saying so.
So, does that mean you also think men are kinder when they point out flaws in your appearance?
“Your nose is shaped like…”
“Your mouth is kind of…”
“Your chin is a little…”
“Your waist isn’t quite…”
“Your breasts are…”
“Your butt is…”
Would you be attracted to a man who keeps pointing out things like that?
It would be different if the other person were pleading with you to tell them the truth. But I don’t think Japan has a culture where saying such things to someone who hasn’t asked is considered kind.
Maybe it’s different overseas, though.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
By “sao,” do you mean the penis? That’s a pretty old-man way of putting it（笑）
A decent adult doesn’t make comments about other people’s bodies. Is calling someone fat, ugly, flat-chested, or saying they have large areolas really kindness?
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