When arranging your next date, do you usually wait for the man to reach out, or do you contact him yourself?
I worry that if I message first, he might think I’m only interested in the money, so I usually wait for the man to contact me. Alternatively, I’m the type who usually decides on a rough date for our next meeting while we’re together.
I’m a BB7 male member.
Generally, I haven’t often had women reach out to me first.
My opinion may differ from everyone else’s, but in my case, I’m put off when someone comes on too strong with comments like, “I’m short on money this month,” making it obvious that they’re only after money.
I’m not an ATM, after all.
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People often say that, but does a woman asking to meet really make her seem money-focused?
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I simply message them to say I’d like to meet.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
In my case, we meet every other week, so the woman coordinates our schedule through our regular messages. As for me, I make sure I have the funds ready for the date.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
Lately, I’ve been waiting for the women to contact me. Whether it’s “How have you been?” or “Hope work hasn’t been too tiring,” I don’t really mind what they say. When a woman reaches out, I arrange the date for our next meeting.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I don’t message someone I’d like to see with a direct “I want to meet you.” Instead, I’ll send a casual LINE message about something like what happened in my day-to-day life. If they’re interested, we’ll end up making plans to meet.
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I’m Fuu, a columnist.
As a rule, I’m the one who checks in about our next plans since I’m the man. We usually set the next date when we meet.
Occasionally, if we haven’t made plans because one of us couldn’t meet due to feeling unwell, the PJ may message me saying she wants to see me.
Personally, I’m honestly happy when a woman messages me saying she wants to see me.
Knowing that she wants to see “me and my Yukichi” at the same time, and that she still wants to see me with that understanding, satisfies my need for validation and makes me happy.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
It depends on the woman.
With women I see almost every week, we usually decide on our next meeting while we’re together. With women I see once or twice a month, they usually contact me first. Occasionally, I’ll reach out to them as well.
When I like them equally, my order of priority is:
“I’m in a tight spot this month, so I’d like to see you.”
“How about meeting up soon?”
“How have you been?”
That’s the order I prefer to hear from them. Someone who openly tells me they’re in a tough spot comes first. I can be straightforward with her too, and it makes things easier.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
I think it’s best to set up your next date when you meet.
If someone says they don’t know their schedule that far ahead, they probably aren’t that interested in meeting again, so you can find that out right away.
If they genuinely want to see you again, they’ll be able to make time for it.
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