What do they mean when they ask, “Do you like sex?”

I’m Fuu, a columnist. Since many girls mention it in their profiles, and you can usually tell once you’ve actually been intimate, I don’t specifically ask. But I can understand why other men would want to know. There’s something incredibly appealing—and exciting—about a girl who seems pure and serious turning out to enjoy H. I suppose they want to date someone like that. I think all the girls I’m seeing regularly enjoy H. I imagine this kind of activity must be really difficult for girls who don’t like it and find it painful. After all, they’re dealing with men old enough to be their fathers. So I assume—and appreciate—that at least enjoying H helps them manage, and makes it possible for them to continue seeing me.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. I find myself asking that fairly often too. Personally, I ask because, since we’re going to do it anyway, I’d rather make sure we both enjoy it. If she likes being affectionate, I’ll spend more time on foreplay. If she says she prefers being passive, she may not be that interested in intimacy itself, so I’ll keep things relatively brief and see how she responds. Basically, I’m asking to get a sense of what she likes and how we should go about it. You can’t judge someone just from asking, “Do you like sex?”—and I don’t make assumptions based on the answer. What makes intimacy good or bad varies from person to person. Even a woman who says she loves sex may not get into it if the chemistry is off, while someone who says she’s not particularly interested may really enjoy it if you happen to hit the right spots. Personally, I’d rather she be specific. I think most men feel the same way. That said, if she gets too specific, some guys may get worked up by what she says and get carried away, so be careful（笑）

I’m Flag Maker, a columnist. Be careful—when a guy asks something like that, answering “I’m into sex” can sometimes be a setup for him to pull toys out of his bag or pressure you into abnormal play. I think the way the questioner answered was perfectly fine.

Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu here. I think they probably asked you that during the interview. (笑) But I don’t think it’s pointless to ask. > If that’s the case, what are they basing it on? You can often get a general sense of how much someone likes something from the way they answer. I’m not exactly sure what the criteria are, but when someone is asked about something they genuinely like, their facial expressions change, and they tend to offer additional information as well. When a man asks during a date, it may not serve much purpose since there’s a possibility they’ll be going to a hotel afterward. But during an interview, how much she likes something can make a difference in whether or not I mention it when writing comments for the men. As you said, most women will answer that they like it. I don’t think there were many women who answered that they disliked it. Still, from the way they say they like it, you can tell to some extent whether they genuinely do. That’s really all there is to it. Even if a woman isn’t particularly enthusiastic about it, you may still want to make her an offer. > What do you think of answering this way? I don’t think it’s bad. You can tell how much she likes it from that answer—namely, that she isn’t all that interested. But I think that’s perfectly fine.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I’ve never actually asked because there’s no real point in doing so. So this is just speculation, but whether someone likes sex probably depends on who they’re with, and I think he was simply asking without giving it much thought. I think your usual response was perfect.