A man told me, “You’re good at oral, but your kissing is kind of mediocre—or rather, not very good. It’s a shame.” What makes someone feel that a person is bad at kissing? I’m careful not to let my teeth touch. Since everyone moves and kisses differently, I try to match the other person, but this was the first time I’d ever been told I was bad at it, so I was really shocked.

I’m a male member named Tetsu. Why would that guy say something like that? If someone tells you you’re bad at it, it’s bound to get in your head, and that can easily make you develop a complex about it. He really shouldn’t say things like that. Let’s look at it from the opposite perspective: what makes a good blow job? I think blow jobs are kind of like an acquired taste. Some people like it slow and sensual, some like taking it deep, some like having the tip teased with the tongue, and others like intense up-and-down movement while being sucked… The list goes on. If you serve tea to someone who loves coffee, they might say, “This isn’t quite what I was looking for.” Personally, I think it’s that same kind of thing. If I had to give one technical piece of advice, it would be to learn a variety of techniques. If you only have one style, you won’t know how to respond when it isn’t the other person’s favorite.

I’m Fuu, a column writer. This is just my personal perspective as Fuu, so try observing whether your partner actually enjoys it. Personally, I’ve never really felt that a PJ was good or bad at kissing. If anything, I think kissing is more male-led, and that the man’s skill at guiding things plays a bigger role... Wanting to help a PJ enjoy herself, I put together this excerpt from YouTube and my own personal guide: - Keep your lips soft—don’t tense them. - Keep your tongue relaxed and let it intertwine with theirs. Also, if your partner enjoys more intense oral stimulation, try matching his style at first, then taking the lead with a more passionate kiss, for example: - Letting your tongue go deeper - Sliding your tongue between his gums and lips - Kissing while breathing heavily or moaning - Kissing for a long time without pulling your lips away If you give the impression that you’re really turned on, Fuu personally finds it irresistible... If your partner says you’re a good kisser, I don’t think you need to feel too discouraged. Just don’t push yourself, okay?

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here, answering as well. > You’re good at blowjobs, but your kissing is just so-so—or rather, not very good. I’d always assumed that people who were good at blowjobs were usually good kissers too. But thinking about how the two could differ, I wonder if you might simply be particularly good at vacuum-style blowjobs. If so, perhaps it means you’re good at the suction aspect, but not especially skilled with your tongue. That said, if you’re really good with your tongue during a blowjob, the man can enjoy it for a long time, but it seems to me that the woman would have to keep moving her tongue for quite a while, which sounds pretty exhausting. With that in mind, I think being good at bringing him to climax is probably more beneficial for both parties, so it seems like you’re already headed in the right direction. In that case, I think you’re fine as you are. However, you also seem quite motivated to improve, so if you do want to work on it in the future, you might want to focus on improving your tongue technique. People often say that it’s impressive if you can tie a cherry stem into a knot in your mouth using your tongue. If you can do that, then whenever a man says you’re a bad kisser, you can just say, “I can tie cherry stems into knots.” He’ll probably realize that he was the one who was bad at kissing.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I was trying to figure out how to put my uneasiness into words when Kamihikōki expressed it perfectly. I agree. One vote for Kamihikōki. Most women accommodate a man’s kissing style, don’t they? And the questioner also wrote that she goes along with it. So I think that man is simply bad at kissing.

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. That man just isn’t very good.