The question about “I’ll contact you again” made me feel kind of sad. I often think about it too, so it hit me especially hard… Why do I have to feel sad or relieved because of a single thing some older man says?
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Please tell me how I can stop letting him affect me and focus only on myself.
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Unfortunately, the man you’re talking to may have picked up on it from that one comment about “an old man”…
If papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with someone around your father’s age—or jiji-katsu with someone around your grandfather’s age—isn’t for you, why not try ani-katsu with someone around your brother’s age, or tomo-katsu with someone around your own age?
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This really hits home.
I often tell someone I’ll get back in touch, but then I don’t end up contacting them because I never manage to make plans.
I’m probably around the same age as your papa, and I’m also extremely busy—both with work and outside of work. Compared to now, I had so much more free time when I was a student. The speed at which time passes feels completely different.
So I’ll say I’ll get in touch, and before I know it, two or three weeks have gone by. That feels like a long time when you’re not busy.
These days, my papas have either handed their companies over to their successors or retired. Even those who still work after stepping back from the front line probably work about a third as much as they did before.
Naturally, they have more time than I do, so I imagine they’re waiting for me to get in touch.
Thanks to your question, I was reminded of what it feels like to be the one waiting.
Thank you.
Marika
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I’m Meg, one of the female members.
I really understand how you feel. I also get excited or upset over every little thing my papa says.
What’s sad is that the word “again” is so uncertain. You feel like saying, “Again? When exactly?!” right?
That said, if the reason you feel relieved is simply because you can get some allowance out of him, I don’t think it’s likely to last very long.
If you’re a student, focus on your studies, which are your main priority.
If you’re working, throw yourself into your job with passion.
If you have something you truly want to pursue, your papa may support you too, don’t you think?
Well, if you’re calling him an “old guy,” he probably isn’t your crush… Better luck next time.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I think that if you work hard at your job or studies, you’ll gradually become less affected by what other people say. Facing the challenges in front of you properly is also important for steadily building your self-esteem.
Also, if things a papa says easily make you anxious or upset, I think it may be necessary to take a break from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). It’s really not something you should force yourself to do.
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I’ll answer too—Maezawa from the CEO’s office.
I think it would be good to become someone who can take the initiative.
To do that, you need to work on yourself and become the kind of woman men genuinely want to see.
That’s what I believe is necessary.
By “work on yourself,” I don’t just mean your appearance. Looks may help you get that first opportunity, but what really matters is everything beyond that.
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