Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu here.
> I’d like you to stop seeing multiple partners.
People that arrogant aren’t suited for a dating club.
Besides, there’s no guarantee that you yourself would commit to just one person. And would you be able to offer an allowance enough to satisfy her?
Like ¥2 million a month…
I get the impression that the people who can’t satisfy women are the ones who insist on being her only partner.
And what does committing to just one person mean, anyway? Are you talking about marriage? Would you be willing to let her use all your assets freely?
People who force nothing but their own ego onto others aren’t well-liked.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
PJ girls have financial goals and amounts they need as well, so if you want to prohibit seeing multiple papas, shouldn’t you first pay her the full amount she needs and then ask her not to date anyone else?
Personally, I’d be put off if she had five to ten papas. I’m not judging her at all—I assume she’s attractive enough to manage that many. But I personally would probably stop seeing that PJ.
Having, or seeming to have, two or three papas is within my acceptable range.
Also, conversely, aren’t you seeing multiple people yourself? What a waste.
To me, one of the best things about a dating club is being able to date multiple people—that’s part of the fun.
If I only had one PJ and we broke up, I’d be far too heartbroken to handle it, emotionally or physically.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I’m with Kazu on this one!
Seeing multiple partners tends to create all kinds of problems, so I wouldn’t really recommend it. I mean, wouldn’t it be better to just be content with one or two people?
There’s a saying: “Live within your means.” If you live within your means, I don’t think you’d normally end up dating a large number of people in your private life.
That said, at a dating club, we’re looking for the best possible partners, and as our allowances increase, I think we inevitably end up seeing more people.
That’s both the good thing and the bad thing about dating clubs, I suppose（笑）
Also, some women will settle into a one-person arrangement—even with an ugly old guy—if he’s reliable about paying a generous allowance.
Even with just one partner, the allowance can be half a woman’s salary, so if she doesn’t try to live beyond her means, it seems like that should be more than enough. What do you think?
Kamikōki-san said:
> But I think you’re only seeing the surface and don’t understand the deeper side of papa-katsu.
> Otherwise, it’s not much different from sex work—just another job or side gig… You’ll end up without ever experiencing what’s good about papa-katsu.
I have to admit, I may feel the same way.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
What are you talking about? Women join these clubs expecting, at least to some extent, to receive an allowance.
If you listen carefully to what a woman says, you can usually tell whether she has another papa (male supporter). The presence of other papas often shows through in the little things she says.
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I’m Hikoki, a male member.
You don’t need to let something like that intimidate you…
If you’re seeing that many papas, it simply means you’ll be able to tell the differences between them.
If you become someone they want to spend the whole day with—or even 12 hours or more after meeting at noon—then dating multiple people will gradually start to feel pointless.
In a way, seeing multiple people can also make it easier to narrow down your options.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
As I mentioned in my answer, I think you’ll be able to tell fairly quickly just by talking with her. There’s a clear difference between someone saying, “I’m struggling financially and just need this much more,” and someone who makes a living through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Unless she’s exceptionally skilled at lying, inconsistencies will naturally show up somewhere, making it possible to tell the difference.
If you sense something doesn’t add up, don’t let your desires get the better of you and overlook it. Pay attention to those signs, and you’ll likely start to see what’s really going on.
If you give her the amount she feels is sufficient and remain someone who doesn’t place a burden on her, she’ll naturally narrow things down to you. Most women aren’t seeing five or six men because that’s what they want. They probably hope to focus on one or two.
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