The woman I like seems like she’s about to leave.
When I tried to stop her,
she asked me to increase her allowance…
It’s such a shame because it’s rare to find someone whose personality and looks are this ideal for me.
I’ve had an unexpected expense in my personal life, so I don’t have much extra to spend on her.
What would you do?
I’m Akai, a staff member at Universe Club, and I’d like to answer as well.
Based on the details of your question, she sounds like a woman of very high caliber. Women like that may be popular at Universe Club, so there’s a possibility she’s meeting other men as well.
Perhaps she negotiated a higher allowance with someone else and thought she might be able to increase the amount with you too.
If your expectations don’t align on that point, it may be difficult to continue seeing each other.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
In that situation, it’s best to agree to the higher allowance. Then set yourself a timeframe—one month, three months, whatever feels right—and spend that time doing your best to win her over. If it still doesn’t work out, you’ll be able to let go, move on, and feel good about pursuing someone else.
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I’m Meg, a female member.
This may sound harsh, but…
If your partner were truly satisfied with you, she probably wouldn’t be looking to leave in the first place.
And I don’t think she would be asking you to increase her allowance, either.
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I’m Hikouki, a male member.
> She begged me to increase her allowance…
She doesn’t seem to have a very good personality.
> She seemed like she was about to leave. When I tried to stop her,
It sounds like you two aren’t very compatible.
You could try increasing how often you meet, but that only works if she also feels that you’re compatible and doesn’t want to leave.
Also, if you get along well and are compatible, just ignore the allowance issue and leave it alone. She’ll contact you wanting to meet again as if nothing happened.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here as well.
Thank you for your question.
> It’s such a shame because it’s rare to find someone whose personality and looks are this ideal.
Someone who’s that great in both personality and appearance is probably receiving generous allowances from other men—or has been offered them.
What benefit does she get from dating you for such a small allowance when she’s that exceptional? Frankly, I think it’s good that she’s at least being honest and telling you that the allowance is the reason.
Usually, things end with her suddenly cutting off contact without telling you the reason, leaving you wondering what went wrong.
In most cases, it’s because the allowance was too low.
When the subject of allowances comes up, most men have this strange confidence and say, “That can’t be it.”
But I’d like you to think about what benefits you were giving her besides the allowance.
Did she tell you she was having fun? If she was really having fun, you wouldn’t be breaking up.
Anyway, getting back to the point:
If she’s really your ideal woman, then increasing the allowance is only natural. If you can’t afford it, you can’t keep seeing her.
This isn’t a question of, “I don’t have any money, but I want designer goods. What should I do?”
If you can’t afford something, you simply have to give up on it.
I don’t know what you’re currently paying, but for example, if you’re paying ¥50,000 to meet three times a month, perhaps you could meet once a month for ¥150,000 instead.
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