I made offers to four women over the past month, and all four accepted, but three of them canceled at the last minute. I never expected this to happen at a dating club, so I was pretty discouraged. Still, I’m asking because I feel there may be something I can do to improve things. I’d especially like to hear from experienced male members: is there anything you make a point of doing to minimize the risk of cancellations?

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well. There’s nothing particularly odd about your profile, so I don’t think it’s related. That said, saying “Please don’t contact me if you’re [〇〇]” can be effective if you genuinely don’t want to meet that type of person, but I do think it could also leave a bad impression. > First person: They experienced severe pain after changing their orthodontic appliance (Is that really true?? And why change it the day before?) It sounds plausible to me. If you had asked whether other days would work, you probably could have figured out whether it was true. If no other day worked either, then the real reason was probably something else. > Third person: A family member suddenly became ill (she’s single) I don’t know whether the reason was true, but I do think it’s true that she couldn’t make it that day. It sounds like she asked whether it would be possible to move it to next week. And considering that she later followed up with messages like, “Have you still not replied?”, I get the impression that she really did want to meet. You might consider this a cancellation by the woman for that particular day, but looking at the situation as a whole, it seems more like the man is the one turning down the date.

I’m Taro, a male member. By “cancellation,” do you mean getting turned down after things have already been arranged? I’ve never had that happen. Maybe there’s something off about your profile. Try setting it to private and sending some offers.

I’m Fuu, a column writer. When I first joined, I also experienced several cancellations in a row. I even asked the club how I could reduce cancellations, but I didn’t receive a clear answer. After two cancellations in a row, I wanted to break the bad streak, so I made an offer to a highly rated, club-recommended girl who seemed like a safe choice—and she agreed to go as far as a room. That helped me regain my confidence. Looking back, I didn’t know any better when I first joined, so I prioritized my preferred type even when her profile was outdated. Girls who don’t update their profiles or stay in touch after registering may already have lost motivation. I think people are usually most motivated right after joining. That said, cute girls may receive a flood of offers as soon as they join, so you can either make them your first choice or wait a little until things settle down before making an offer. However, by then, she may already have found a good papa (a male supporter), or she may have encountered an unpleasant papa first, causing her motivation to drop—or even leading her to quit. In my experience, most of the cancellations and lateness have involved students. Maybe they register with a fairly casual attitude. Luck is also a factor. Although students seem to have a higher cancellation rate, they also give you a better chance of meeting a hidden gem. I carefully read their profiles and watch their videos to imagine what they’re like and reduce the risk of cancellation as much as possible. Still, I hope you can enjoy this activity with a sense of excitement—including the possibility that she might cancel or turn down going to a room. I’ve also written a little about cancellations in my column: https://universe-club.jp/column/Firstoffer Persistence pays off. I hope you eventually have a wonderful encounter too.

I’m Flagmaker, a column writer. - Annual income: ¥10 million - Around 40 - I show my face clearly to anyone I make an offer to (bald and shaven) That’s what my profile looks like, and I’ve never had someone cancel after accepting an offer. I do write things like, “I’ll do my best to make sure the woman never feels uncomfortable,” in the comments, though I wonder if anyone actually reads it. lol Come to think of it, right after joining, I checked only “I want to pursue a romantic relationship, while keeping in mind that this is a dating club,” and had my offers turned down several times. After I changed my selections to “dinner only (no intimacy) to start” and “we’ll see how we feel about each other after meeting,” that stopped happening. I try to make my profile the kind that gives the other person room to say no. If you can’t even get into the ring, you can’t fight in the first place.

I’m “Paper Airplane,” a male member. Since your profile is public, that’s about the only thing I can think of… Last-minute cancellations are extremely rare—practically less than 1%—so there may be some specific reason behind them. If your profile is public, the only possibility I can think of is that something on it isn’t being shown to the women you’re making offers to. Another possibility is that the introduction includes some unusual remark that could be making them want to decline… Personally, I schedule all my dates around the woman’s preferred day. I do the same for second dates and beyond, and that may be why last-minute cancellations are almost nonexistent. Even when it happens, she usually suggests another day. Asking for the woman’s preferred date and working around it may be the key. If you schedule around her availability, it can usually be handled as a simple change, so the first date still ends up happening. Also, women’s physical condition is harder to plan around than men’s. Men may feel better just by meeting a woman even when they’re tired, and some men feel fine every day of the year, but women don’t necessarily work that way. So I think it’s best to assume that last-minute cancellations are bound to happen, and if one does, just treat it as a good opportunity to spend the time productively on other work, dates, or things you normally don’t get to do. Women may also prefer to meet only when they’re feeling their best, unlike men…