After seeing her for more than three years, she told me I had become too emotionally demanding, and I ended up feeling like I’d been dumped.
Now, after about two months, she says she wants to see me again.
I think she’s probably either running out of money or having trouble meeting new men.
We were quite close, so I assume that’s how things ended up this way. If you were in my position, would you resume the relationship? I’m really torn.
I’m Aya, a female member.
I’ve never reached out again on my own to a papa I broke up with because I felt things were getting too intense. I think that’s because I was already perfectly satisfied with the papa I had at the time.
So in this woman’s case, perhaps her current papa was no longer around and she could no longer earn a satisfactory income, which is why she came back to rely on you again.
I’d find that disrespectful, and if she only sees you as an ATM, I wouldn’t want to meet her again.
That said, some men are apparently fine with that as long as their sexual needs are met. So I think you should decide based on whether you value an emotional connection or sex more.
Best of luck.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
If she’s the one saying she wants to meet, then why not meet her? If she performs well, keep her on; if not, send her down to the second string. Just handle it calmly and methodically.
From my personal experience, returning bonito is indeed delicious, but two months is too short. It doesn’t seem to have put on much fat yet. Maybe you should plant something that stimulates her homing instinct, then release her back into the wild one more time.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
So you two were pretty close, huh?
Well, if you want to get intimate with her, why not reconnect? You seem to think she’s having money problems, but she may think you don’t have any other women willing to give you attention.
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I’m Kamihikōki, a male member.
I think it ended because we were never really that close to begin with.
> I’m struggling with this.
Even though it wasn’t a romantic relationship, being “dumped” after things had continued—and actually being given a reason—is pretty serious.
> You became too much.
That basically means she sees you as a seriously deluded man and felt uncomfortable enough to consider you a potential stalker. She doesn’t feel anything toward you beyond the financial benefit.
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I’m Basil, a male member.
It depends on how much I like her, but since I can meet plenty of other wonderful women, I don’t feel particularly motivated to rekindle things. If I felt like seeing her again after a long time, I might meet her once.
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
Let’s stop overthinking things. Are you upset about being rejected? Is it some weird sense of pride? None of that matters. None of it.
If you want to see them, go see them. If you want to get intimate, go see them. Value your desires and instincts!
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
It sounds like your relationship with the person who asked the question wasn’t actually as bad as you thought.
If they haven’t found someone else, perhaps you could get back together for the time being, see how things go, and continue if it works out.
Unlike Riichi, I’m the type who gets curious and asks what happened during the time we were apart, simply because it sounds interesting.
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I’ll answer as Maezawa from the CEO’s office.
I don’t think there’s any point in trying to figure out the reason.
If she says she wants to see you, I think you should meet her first.
Then, if you meet and still feel that you’d like to continue seeing each other, you can start things up again.
Even if you ask for the reason, you’ll never know what the real reason is.
Whether it’s for the money or because she hasn’t found another man, it doesn’t really matter.
If she wants to see you and you want to see her too, I can’t help wondering what else is necessary.
First, meet her and see how you feel.
Also, if things became too serious for you last time, I think you should make some adjustments this time so you don’t get too emotionally invested.
If things go the same way as before, you may end up thinking, “She hasn’t changed, so this won’t work…” and breaking things off again.
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