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Mar 31, 2021 13:07
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Maybe I can’t stand pretending I don’t know he’s seeing other girls, because it makes me feel like I’m being deceived.
I look because I want to know what my papa is up to—or whether I should think, “Oh, he’s cheating again.” If there’s no communication with anyone else, that makes me happy too.
If I look through his messages and he seems to be having more fun with another girl, maybe I start thinking, “I can’t take this anymore. I should break up with him.”
My papa is planning to rent an apartment for me starting next month. We’ll see each other about twice a week. Is it wrong to look through the phone of such a generous (well-paying) supporter? I do like him, and he tells me, “We’re in a relationship. I don’t cheat.”
That’s exactly why, if he’s been having a serious affair behind my back—if something worse is going on than before—I want to break up with him immediately… Is it strange to think this way?
I’d appreciate hearing the opinions of people who have experienced papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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Meg
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🏅 修行の身
光と影
Age: 50s
👩 Female
Former Universe member
I’m Meg, a female member.
Well, I can understand how you feel, though.
Isn’t this exactly the kind of thing you should just turn a blind eye to?
Even if you snoop, it doesn’t seem like anything good will come of it for you...
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this as well.
Thank you for your question.
If you’ve been betrayed once before, I think that kind of behavior is perfectly understandable.
Wanting to say, “If anything worse happens than last time, I want to break up immediately,” is only natural.
That said, in general, the key to making a relationship work seems to be not looking into those kinds of things.
🏅 40歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現AI界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
That way of thinking seems pretty normal to me. I hear similar complaints from time to time, too.
Things will work themselves out eventually.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを!
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中!
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです!
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Let’s start living a life we can be proud of—one where we don’t have to keep looking back—while we still can.
You’d genuinely care if he were your boyfriend, so if you’re feeling that way about your papa, that’s a problem.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
Anyone who snoops through someone else’s phone without being their guardian is a piece of shit. In the questioner’s case, since she’s a woman, she’s a shitty bitch.