I’m a male member. Should I tell the female member face-to-face when I want to end things, even though I don’t intend to give a reason? Or would it be better to simply fade out without saying anything? Even though we met through the club, the latter option leaves me feeling uneasy about how I’d be treating a younger woman. Is that feeling just self-satisfaction?

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. Rather than formally ending things, couldn’t you just say you’re busy and stop meeting for a while? You never know—you might end up seeing each other again a few years from now...

Maezawa from Shachōshitsu will answer as well. Thank you for your question. From the standpoint of avoiding trouble, quietly fading out is probably the safest option. But from a man’s perspective, he may want to meet one last time. However, if you do meet, he’ll probably want to know why things are ending and may try to persuade you to continue somehow. If you feel that would still be okay, then meeting one last time would probably make him happy. Something like having an adult relationship (intimate) one last time and then saying goodbye might sound nice, but very few men are likely to let things end that smoothly, and I feel that about 90% of the time it would lead to trouble. I think you can tell based on what kind of person he was during the relationship.

I’m Kazu, a male member. If you don’t intend to explain why, then fading out is really the only option, isn’t it? I felt it was just self-satisfying.